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Can I ask my Mum's Oncologist her life expectancy?

SAlalia
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Hi 

My mum has cancer in multiple organs. Liver, Lungs, Kidney and Spleen. I realise it is serious and that her life expectancy is not long as they are not recommending treatment as she is too weak. 
My mum is pretty anxious and I want to help her focus on having a positive experience with the time she has left. 
I was wondering am I legally allowed to ask her oncologist her life expectancy without her being in the room as I am concerned it will only increase her anxiety. 

Thank you 

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    Hi, we were in a similar situation. Mum has lung cancer which has spread to her bones and thyroid. Mum doesn't want to know her life expectancy (a few weeks at most) but we thought it would be useful to know so that we can manage her care. When we saw the oncologist, we asked mum if she was happy that we had a quick chat with the doctor once she left the room. Mum was happy that we could and the oncologist was happy to discuss the things mum didn't want to hear. This has allowed us to plan for the future whilst mum stays as positive as she can (despite the symptoms) 

    Hope this helps. 

    Best wishes. 

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    I felt I needed to ask the question about my father...I waited until he had left the room then quickly rushed back to ask. Obviously they can't be 100% certain and can only offer advice upon their experiences. They told me my Dad only had a few months (until Dec). I just need to know to prepare myself which I know is selfish and I will never tell him that as he thinks he will get better and is is denial but if that's what makes him stronger I'm glad!

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