Hi Clare,

Whatever you do, try not to jump to any conclusions ... good or bad! 

"Think positive" advice can be so frustrating, I know, but there is always a chance that the suspicious spot on his liver is something less serious than a secondary cancer. Even if the final diagnosis is stage 3 or stage 4, that isn't necessarily a terminal diagnosis. I've been living with stage 4 inoperable and incurable oesophageal cancer for almost 5 years now - "terminal" has no formal medical definiton but usually means that you're likely to die in under six months. 

Good luck!

Dave

Hi Clare,

My hubby (same age as your Dad) was diagnosed Dec 2017.  He was scheduled to have surgery  in June but the Pet Scan just prior showed it had spread, making surgery no longer an option. Since diagnosis though he has spent apx 3 months in hospital (longest stay 3 1/2 weeks, just came home today after another 3 day stay.  Neil has lost nearly 1/3 of his his pre-diagnosis weight.  Eating has been as issue although this has improved somewhat due to radiation and chemo.  At one stage all his food was pureed, but now he is able to eat more normally, although only small amounts.  We have district nurses come twice a week usually, although at times they have been everyday when needed.  He doesn't have the energy to do anything much and mainly sits watching tv or reading with frequent naps.  He also no longer drives apart from driving 2 blocks to get the paper on a Sunday.  You have Dave who seems to be at one end of the scale, my hubby at the other, so your father could fall anywhere in between.  I will say it, try and stay positive, your father's final disgnosis hopefully won't be as bad as you're thinking.  Take care.

Sue