My husband was diagnose with stage 4d colon cancer in January 2012.  It travelled to his liverabout 3 years ago and last january he was told it had also now gone to his lungs and was therefore considered palliative care.  He has endured 2 further chemos that absolutely knock him flat.  He has tremendous trouble with his bowels either going 20 to 30 times a day or stopping completely which makes him very ill indeed.  The last chemo didn't work and the cancer has spread virulently to the lungs and lliver. but as of yesterday when he saw the consultant he was offered cape something or other by mouth.  that takes 2 weeks of treatment then 1 week of rest.  for 6 months duration.  he is feeling so ill because of the cancer and is sleeping 20 hours out of 24. he has no energy to even speak at times.  i think we have come to the point of giving up chemo and just waiting for the inevitable.  i hve tried to get help today for him but despite being referred to a hospice in april (when we didn't need it) i have to now see the doctor on his behalf to get referred again.  and getting an appointment for them is like finding hen's teeth.sorry for the non punctuation but it's hard to see the keyboard through my tears.