I’m 18, with a 7 year old little sister. Our dad has prostate cancer and it’s unfortunately spread to the lymph nodes. He’s been offered chemotherapy recently but has declined it after doing research; having only a small chance for it to be successful and that it can cause more damage than good. He’s only 60 and has said he’d rather have a good quality of life for 3-5 years than be a “walking corpse”. I’m not sure if he’s made the right decision and I’m stressed because I’ll be off to university in a years time hopefully and I won’t be able to see him as much and it stresses me knowing how this is going to damage and traumatise my little sister immensely when his time has come, and I’d still be at university. I don’t know what to do or how to cope. I just pretend the problem doesn’t exist and act like everything is okay even though it’s eating me alive inside. My dad and I have the best bond, and I am a daddy’s girl. I can’t believe this is happening and it doesn’t even feel real. His decision not doing chemo has stressed my mother and she doesn’t know how she’ll cope without him either, especially as I’m not going to be around. Also knowing he won’t be around to see my successes and if I have any children or get married... I don’t know how to comprehend it.
