2-4 weeks!!

2-4 weeks? The hardest news I’ve ever had to hear in my life! My dad was healthy and happy 6 months ago now we’ve been given 2-4 weeks it doesn’t even make sense does it! He was diagnosed completely out of the blue with bowel cancer, then the CT scan came back a week later that he had it secondary in the liver and it was terminal! My dad is 54 years young....he was offered palliative chemo which he did but after 3 months of it the new CT scan shows it’s not working and he’s been given the horrific prognosis of 2/4 weeks left. How on earth is anybody supposed to process that information? I’ve never experienced physical pain from upset before, I’m completely lost as to what happens now. His wishes are to be at home and we’ve been assured that he won’t be in any pain but I have no idea what to expect and I’m scared. I want to rewind time and I’m angry that I can’t I’m angry that this is happening, I’m angry that my dad is the most amazing man who totally doesn’t deserve this!!! 

  • Hi there ...and welcome ...

    There's no easy way through this time .. but the only thing l would say is my mum called me one Monday morning about coming up mine the next day ... her last words were see ya tomorrow love .... at 5.20 that afternoon I got called to the hospital... the Dr came in to me and my sister and said there was nothing they could do ... she'd had a massive heart attack. . There was no tomorrow... there was no couple of hours or even minutes to tell her I was so proud she was my mum... and hold her one more time ... I'd have given anything for just one hour ...

    You have what l didn't... you can't change what outcome there is, but you can hold him, share tears ... tell each other all that's in your hearts ... and make a few memories for your heart to remember ... is there someone or something he still wants to do ... ask him about his childhood ... ask if there's anything he needs to say, even though it will be hard to hear ... don't look at the future coz that's overwhelming... look at he's here today ... walk this last path holding his hand ... support him ... and know all those feelings your having is normal ... everyone who has lost a wonderfull parent knows them ..

    So take every day and grab it with both hands ... and he will be so proud of you for helping him through ..

    Sending you a big hug from one daughter to another ...  Chrissie