Hello LostWyse and welcome.  So sorry you have to face this situation with your dad.  Are there no other family members to help each other out - you say there is no-one to talk to?  Make the most of the time you have; even if he is not alert talk to him.  I hope you have medical help coming in as you must be afraid of what is happening; I am enclosing some information about dying which of course you don't have to read if don't wish to do so but you may find it helpful.  Please keep in touch and let your feelings out; I know we don't know each other but posters here want to be helpful.    You seem to have had so little time to prepare for this and you should take any help you can.  The cancer nurses here (Freefone 0808 800 4040) will be happy to discuss anything you are unsure about (they work Mon-Fri 9am-5pm).  Also MacMillan Cancer Support (Freefone 0808 808 0000 will also help you if you want to discuss what is happening.  They work Mon-Fri 9am-8pm. 

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Thank you. We sadly lost my dad Saturday night. He was admitted in to hospice care on 17.05.18 where we were told they didn’t expect him to last the weekend but the fighter in him proved strong. He had someone with him each night and on 26.05.18 after us all giving him a kiss goodnight he waited for us to lay down where the hospice had made makeshift beds for us and he took his last breath. He didn’t want an audience I’ve not slept since he died. Every time I close my eyes all I can see is a waxy opened mouth version of my dad I’m devastated at how quickly everything has happened I have my brother to talk to but he’s as devastated as I am and my partner had never seen anyone dying or just died and now I feel rubbish at making him be there to support me. Dad only turned 60 in September 

Hello LostWyse,

We're very sorry to hear the news about your dad.

On behalf of all the Cancer Chat team, please accept my heartfelt condolences at this difficult time, and know that our thoughts are with you. 

I also just wanted to mention Cruse Bereavement Care, who offer support after the death of someone close. As well as talking to people on here, you might find contacting them provides some comfort.

Helen
Cancer Chat moderator

I am so sorry; even though you knew your dad was not going to be able to carry on for much longer it is still devastating. 60 is too young but wretched cancer doesn't care.  The only consolation is that it appears he died peacefully.  You will feel totally lost for the time being but you should eventually return to remembering your dear dad as he was before he was ill.  In the meantime just do anything that makes you feel a bit better; there are no wrongs or right things to do.  It is a tragic time beyond fairness or understanding but somehow you will get through it.  Annie