Hi all, my mums been battling cancer on off for last 8 years. now she has three months to live and im 30 weeks pregnant. i dont know how to cope and be happy for my baby. cancer is horrid and i just feel angry and heart broken
Nothing I can do or suggest will alter the outcome of this horrible trial. However it might well be that your Mum will survive to see your child. Is there any comfort you can take from this knowing how thrilled she might be. And so be happy for your baby.
I know you have to look for small mercies and try to be with your Mum as much as possible and enjoy the moment.
Hi there. I imagine your mum is in fact so pleased about your pregnancy and wishes you all the happiness with your child. I know it seems an emotional mix-up to you - caught in the middle of losing a loved mother and at the same time bringing a new life into being - while this is the way of life most of us don't have to manage the two together. Does your mum like to talk to you about the expected child? I hope that the baby - whichever the sex - has elements of your mum so that you can see that she lives on in the genes as well as your heart. Annie
Your mother is clearly exceptionally strong to have been battling it for so long. Me and my dad were told that my mum had 6 months to live and although she is now in her final days it has been a year since she was told that, with cancer you never truly know and the doctors can be wrong. You must be going through a whirlwind of emotions and no the end won't be easy however you have a light at the end of the tunnel, your beautiful baby which will restore your faith in this world. I'm sure your mum will love to hear every little thing that happens with your baby so just keep her mind full of positivity and share every moment you can with her. And when the baby arrives you will know exactly how to care for it, just the same way your mum looked after you. I wish you all the best Alicia x
Thank you all for your kind support. Its so tough to watch my mum so poorly. Im starting to get painky and carnt sleep. Life is so hard but then so lovely at the same time if that makes sense
i see this post is from last year, but I had to reach out and see how you were because I have found myself in exactly the same situation. My mum was told on Wednesday that she has just months to live and I am also 30 weeks pregnant. I don’t understand how life can be so cruel in some ways, yet so kind in others.
I Lost my beautiful mum on 1st f July and i had my lovely son on the 10th July. I felt like my heart had been ripped out of my chest if im honest the pain was very intense, however knowing my mum loved my son even though she never meet him, and she would want me to be ok for him i just kind of got through each day as best as i could.
Since iv lost my mum i have had so many signs that she is still around me and with me, the pain is bareable and tbh it kind off always has been, i get angry at times but i just think my mum battled so hard for so many years, i dont want to go down when my mum would hate that.
You need to think of baby and how happy your mum will be knowing you will be ok.
It is hard but honestly you will be ok, give your mum loads of hugs and kissses and tell her you love her.
Honestly please message if thers anything i can help you with
i have a similar situation my mum died suddenly last August and my daughter was born in the June she was 6 weeks old this was a complete shock to us all and definitely was the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced. However my daughter gave me a purpose she kept me going as she was solely dependant on me and I feel the bond between you and your child will reap the benefits of this ... as I have with my daughter. Don’t get me wrong the hardest part is seeing other nans out with their grand babies. I try to tell myself they aren’t my mum so why does it matter.....you can do this you will see how much strength you have after this as I can’t believe myself sometimes. Also it helped taking her to baby groups swimming I go out with her everyday and it really helps ....sending so much love cancer is bloody awful xx
