Grandad dying of stomach cancer, dont know what to do

My lovely grandad has just taken a turn for the worst in his latest experience with his stage 4 terminal cancer. He had his second (reduced dose) of chemotherapy 3 weeks ago following a bad reaction to his first higher dose that left him in hospital for 6 days. 

Earlier this week he was vommiting and for the last 4 days he's had hiccups contantly with belching and burping. Last night it got even worse as he had a fall, pooed the bed and then started throwing up blood and is now back in hospital having a blood transfusion and camera tests. They have confirmed he has internal bleeding in the stomach. 

I just really cannot cope with all of this, I dont know what to do and feel so helpless. He must be so scared and tired. I cannot cope with the unknown and the patience is killing me, what can I do and is there any thing I can expect?? He is my whole world.

  • Hi Soph

    It is so hard seeing someone you love suffering so much and not being able to do anything.

    Well you can!

    See him as much as you are able to and show him loads of love. Put it in writing so he has something by him when you aren't around.  No matter what the outcome of his treatment you can be sure you have given him something precious.

    You won't know how long there is to go but don't waste a day.

    Kind thoughts

    David

  • Hiya 

    Sorry you have to got through all.of this. 

    As he is hospital. You should ask about carers for when he comes home. Does he live with you ? Does anyone else live there? 

    My mum has carers visit through the day and at night time too. This kind of support is priceless to us. I am living up at mum's with my step dad too. She came out of hospital nearly 4 weeks ago. 

    Without their support I don't know what we would do.ask about the care.

    Everyone's situation and prognosis is so different. It us so hard to see a loved one going through what they do. 

    Speak to McMillan I guess they can give you advice also hun. 

    Xx