My dear Sue, hello and welcome. I am so sorry that you have had this news. There is loads of hopefully helpful information on this website - I attach this - but what we would really like you to do is tell us a bit about yourself, your family and your diagnosis. Any help we can give will be given. If you have just had your diagnosis then your emotions are very likely all over the place so don't expect to come to terms with how you are going to handle this straight away. Annie
If found when I was diagnosed that some people would avoid me. Others couldn't of been more helpful and understanding.
I person actually said these words to me when I told him about my breast cancer diagnosis... "we all have our crosses to bear". I think my jaw just hit the ground. Didn't bother with him or his wife anymore
Thanks Sue; everything in your own good time. I/we just want to know that you not in distress and all on your own. I started to look through the search part of the forum for someone in a similar situation but have not seen any recent one and sadly I guess many of the people who posted say a year or so ago are no long here to chat with you. Will keep looking. Annie
I find it very hard to talk to my partner we have been together for a year but he wants to know everything all at once, im not ready to tell him how I feel he pressures me all the time and makes it about him and his feelings, more stressful than my illness, sorry for moaning.
Sue
I had breast cancer 10 years ago. If I am honest it was the hardest part of the whole thing was how my husband was during that time. He just did not know how to cope at all.... he was scared stiff of loosing his wife, mother of his children. There was no support for him. And he needed it.
Just cut yourself some slack and talk to someone like a McMillan nurse.
My sister also died from bowel cancer...i remember her saying to me that it had made her selfish. But is it surprising. Take it day by day.
I can't really offer more than that at the moment.
Hi again Sue; have been away for a couple of days and am just catching up. Things with your partner don't sound great; I can understand that he is frightened but it should perhaps be fear for you rather than for himself! But hopefully he will get himself together for you.
"We all have our crosses to bear"; wow, I wonder what the nature of his crosses are - does he have a terminal diagnosis too! Friends often do not know what to say but perhaps something like "What can I do to help you?" would be more appropriate.
I am not going to push you for information but would suggest that you take a look around this website for useful stuff to know about; and I hope you will keep coming here to post as and when you want to do this. Annie
