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Struggling with losing dad

Ally72
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Hi, my dad is in end stages of liver&bowel cancer.he has deteriorated a lot the last couple of weeks & we are told that the end isnt far away. Although i want his suffering to end , the thought of losing my lovely dad is almost too much to bear!  I also have the fear of not being with him at the end. Anyone  else feel like that?

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    Hi Ally

    My Dad was diagnosed in December with cancer of the unknown primary, he passed away 5th March 2018. My Dads last few weeks were hard for us as a family, but some how we managed to cope! Like you I couldn’t bear the thought of losing him but at the same time didn’t want to see him pain! I feared that I would miss his passing but in a way I also didn’t want to witness it... 

    All I can say is try and be with your Dad as much as possible. Somehow you will find a way to cope.

    Take Care of yourself 

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    Hi Ally72, unfortunately I’m in a similar situation, my Dad is in end stages of prostate,bone & liver cancer. I live 200 miles away so drove up yesterday to be with my parents . It is so hard to know what to do, whether I go back home for a few days , or stay here with them. I also have the fear of not being here, but I guess no-one knows when it will actually happen so it is something I can’t allow myself to feel guilty about. Thinking of you and your Dad
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    Hi Ally, I feel the same as you. I think when people with cancer are ready to pass, most of the time they are in hospice and the hospice team can let you know how much time is left. Usually they are spot on with how many days or weeks the person has left. I am afraid of not being there too, but I think you will know and hopefully you can make whatever arramgements you need to be there. Take care.

    Cassidy

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