Welcome to Cancer Chat, Shirl123gym.

I'm sorry to hear about your twin daughter, what an incredibly difficult situation this must be for you and for your family.

Hopefully, some of our members who have been through a similar situation with a loved one affected by cancer will be along shortly to share their stories and offer advice but until then feel free to post as much as you need. There is always someone here to listen.

Best wishes to all of you,

Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi there shirl ... so so sorry to hear what your going through ... cancer keeps reaching new limits and has no compassion... it seems like you must feel overwhelmed by it all ... and sadly there is no easy way round .... you only know how strong you are when your backs against the wall, even if you feel anything but strong at the moment .. 

My son developed diabetes at 14 ... and he had a few really hard years where he had horendious hypos.  And I nearly lost him a couple of times ... and it's always a little like a ticking bomb in my head, like it just waits ... so although it's different, l do know a little ... 

I know trying to do normal things must seem impossible right now , but on good days building some loving good memories will help her and from what I know through my own experiences with my nieces who lost their step dad who was just like a real daddy to them ... Will help her babies too ... and I found sharing tears and being gentle but honest with them helps too .. when they see everyone trying to be tough , they think they have too ... 

Share hugs, tears, admit your all scared ... and try and fit in as much as you can and walk this path together ... I may be wrong but it really touches my heart as it seems her hubby is taking everything on his shoulders ... and I'm worried he's holding in so much headache right now ... if you can all come together ... share everything , say what's on all your minds and know that's o.k .. there's no right or wrong way through ... try to live in the day ... and you know there's a few on here who have had terminal diagnosis and they are pushing those odds right down the road ... years down the line, they are still here helping others now too ... so now all I can do is send you all a huge hug ... chrisie xx  

Wer always here when you need a shoulder ...