Oh Spudo66 I am so so sorry. I am crying with you. I am thinking of you although i don’t know you but I do know how devastated you are feeling, My thoughts are with you and I’m here if you ever want to get in touch. I miss my younger sister every day. It’s so unfair. Thinking of you. So so sorry xxxx

Very sad to hear this but you are wrong that she is no more. She is in your heart and will be in your thoughts forever.

It won't be easy but you must continue without her.

I know how difficult it is but you need to look back to the times before the illness, which is a short time compared to the rest of her life together with you.

It know it esems unfair but fairness is a human traiit How is it fair a newly hatched turtle gets eaten by a gull? You have every right to feel this way as well as anger and helplessness. 

Unfortunately we cannot change what has happened but I'm sure she would want you to carry on and be happy, as indeed you would if it were the other way round

It is heartbreaking. I just keep telling myself that there's no life without death. My sisters 37 with a husband and 3 lovely children 18 months, 6 and 8. Breast cancer has spread to her lungs and liver. In Covid times she's not getting the care she needs even through the NHS. She had an infection recently where the doctor said she needed admitting to hospital but they couldn't take the chance of her catching Corona virus. Don't anyone ever tell me there's a God. We'll get through it though and my sister will live on though her children and in our memory's. There's still some hope but I've just realised 5 minutes ago that she's going to die. Been trying to keep everyone positive but I can't anymore. I have to change from being positive about the possible outcome to positive about life going forward without Emma. That's more difficult. 

There are no words to comfort you in your pain the loss you feel and will always feel is so immense that it makes all other things pale into nothing The questions that you ask yourself everyday the why why why that have no answer. My own sister died in march of this year and as I read your post my tears hurt as much as ever  As I said there is no answer to the question why but I try not to dwell on the times we lost but the times we had she who shaped me to who I am now not just a man who has a sister who died of cancer but a man who has a sister that coloured my life with so many emotions and I have those still. You and your sister are cut from the same cloth the same line she is always with you for she is part of who you are. Share with her all you can for you both need your love now and always 

Thank you. Sorry to hear about your sister. We'll get through this in time. 

This is just heartbreaking.

I lost my sister four weeks ago aged 42. She had a six year fight with metastatic breast cancer, it eventually spread to her lungs, bones, liver and brain.

She had started another round of chemo and it didn't look good but her care team never told us to start preparing. All the signs were obvious that the treatment wasn't working but they kept giving her chemo, eventually she passed away and the cause of death was internal bleeding.

I feel sick to the stomach and cry every day, her son is 7 and he wants to stay with me because I remind him of his mummy. It's so hard and I'm not coping.

I'm married with kids too and they're heartbroken as she was their only auntie.

life can be so unfair :-(

Hi

I also lost my lovely sister and, just like you, am heartbroken. Her little boy turns 4 today. It's horrible. Please contact me if you want to talk more...