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Gjill
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Im getting married in 5 days and my dad has jyst had the results back from his scan . He has terminal cancer 2 tumours and in hospital . Im totally devasted . Feeling hurt and angry thinking over and over how its so cruel . We should all be happy at this time with the wedding but im feeling as i walk down that aisle my heart will be broken . I just want him there so much . My partner is so supportive hes a fantastic caring man . And i know i need to be strong for my dad and mum . But im braking inside  . No body wants to loose their parents . I know its my dad now who we have to make comfortable and i know he wants me to be happy on my day but im just so devastated and when i stand in my dress i know i will be holding all my tears in. I just want him to recover but unfortunately its terminal and hes elderly.  I love him so much its tearing me up . 

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    My dad is in the near enough the same situation. It's such a shock and somehow we convince ourselves that everything is going to be okay, until that heartbreaking moment you hear "its terminal". Does your dad have a bucket list or anything? Spending time with family and doing things he wants to do will help take his mind off everything, and will also help you take your mind off it too.

    I try not to get upset around my dad as I know he would not want that. I would suggest looking up alternative meds such as tumeric capsules, cannabis oil (rick simpson oil) etc. as that is what i am doing at the moment. 

    I would also have a talk with his docs and see what the plan is, chemo and radiation i presume? Based on the severity of your dads condition, he could still have quite a bit of time left! have they given you a prognosis? 

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    it was my dad whom i was told 5 days before i married he had terminal cancer. he was unable to come to my wedding which was devastating enough but he died 10 days after i got married . i was at his bedside its been 3 hard years coming up and i still cant accept hes gone he was my life my everthing my heart is broken 

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