Hi Rachael ... I so wish there was a magic answer that could make this time easier ... It hurts so much because you were blessed with a lovely dad ... So many will never know that feeling ... I lost both my wonderful parents by 39 .... I've been where you are now ...

All I can say is live in the day ... Make every day count ... Hug, say all what's in your heart, and your dad's ... Share tears, and if you can do this, there may be some smiles along the way ... Maybe there's something he still wants to do ... Something or someone he wants to see ... Pack every day full of memories ... Don't look ahead ... It seems overwhelming then ... He's here now ... You can't turn back time but you can change the "now" grab it with both hands ... Walk this journey with him, weather long or short ... Sending you a big hug ... Chrisie xx

Walk this journey with him

Rarely do you hear words as beautiful as this.

Rachael? What Chrissie said.

Best Regards

Taff

Thank you for your message Chrisie, reading this makes me feel stronger. I want to be by his side walking this journey with him no matter how painful it is. I’m so sorry you lost both wonderful parents. It means so much talking to someone who has been where I am now. I am 29 now but deep down I’m still my Dad’s little girl and don’t think that will ever change. It makes me proud to know how connected we are as Dad and daughter but also as friends Xx

Rachael ... my mum and dad they never left me, they now live in my heart ... and I do feel , esp my mum around keeping an eye over me and my two sons ... and when you look in the mirror, there he will be looking right back at ya ... coz you are your dad, he made you ...

Now please take each an every day ... make those memories .. even on sad days .. just holding his hand will be a moment in time of the two of you together ... I'm here most days if you get low , as those feelings your having, are normal ... it's being human ... but I promise to be here if ever you need anything ... just go on my pic and send a friend request if you ever need it ... 

And thanks taff ... x               big big hug ... from one daughter to another ... Chrissie

I'm so sorry for what you're having to go through. It really is one of the toughest things most of us will have to go through which is losing someone we love. I echo what Chrisie has said in her reply to you, don't look too far ahead just concentrate on the present and create some memories whilst you can. Take new photos, video recordings, listen to music, talk about the past, watch a film together, see if there is anything he wants to do or a place he might like to go and visit, if he is able to get out and about. 

I am 28 and I lost my Dad almost 7 months ago (August last year) from bowel cancer. He had been fighting the cancer for 2 years as it had also spread to his lungs and liver. But April last year it sadly spread to his brain and we were told in the May he was now terminal. We had to old our breaths for those 3 long excruciating months not knowing if it was going to be today or tomorrow etc. Watching him deteoriate was the hardest part. He went from being  around 15 stone to skin and bone in those last few months. He was completely bed ridden for the last 2 months of his life so sadly we were unable to take him out anywhere. I couldn't even have a conversation with my Dad for the last 4 months of his life either because his brain wouldn't allow it. If you want to chat feel free to message me any time. Sometimes it is just a comfort knowing there is someone else who 'understands.' 

Big hugs x 

Hi. 

My name is Samantha, my dad was diagnosed with asbestos cancer, the Thursday before Christmas, he has gone down hill so fast, he’s my rock, my best friend. When my daughter died he was constantly there for me, I hate seeing him like this, I fear he’s not going to be here much longer.

Hi Rachael, I hope you are doing well. I'm going through the same thing as you right now with my dad. He has tumors in his liver that they don't know where it originated from. There isn't any treatment he can do and he prefers to live the rest of his life not sick from chemo. I thought there could be some kind of miracle or food that would get rid of everything, but sadly sometimes there is nothing that can be done. I cry almost everyday thinking about losing him, which I know will happen sooner than later. I find that what helps me most is talking to him and spending time with him because I know even though it's hard now to watch a parent suffer, it will feel better in the long run. I get comfort in knowing he will always be with me in spirit and memories. I think watching this process will be the hardest part, but after it happens, it should get easier. Even though this is a terrible disease, my dad always tells me it's better to know when he will die because we can cherish the remaining time with him instead of him dying suddenly and unspoken words can never be said. Reading al these posts I feel less alone, especially since I'm going through this at such a young age when every around me is enjoying their young adulthood. I have never dealt with any death in my family so I can't really give you advice on how to deal with it when it happens, but I hope this helps. Stay strong and I hope in time this will get better for you!

Just sending you and everyone who's written on here a big hug ... sometimes there are no words ... but a hug can say it better ... take care of your hearts ... Chrissie