Hello Aggie.  I am so sorry to learn of your mum's illmess and am pleased that you have come to talk to the peope on this forum.  I am attaching a link to an organisation called riprap which provides information for young people who have a parent with cancer.  There is a forum where you can ask questions and chat with other people in your age group about what you are going through.

http://www.riprap.org.uk/

There is also an organisation called Hope Support Services which support young people who are suffering from the loss of a parent.

None of us can be strong all of the time so please do make use of these services and also you can ring the nurses here (0808 808 4040) if there is anything you wish to discuss about your mum's illness.  I should certainly talk to your class teacher about what you are going through; s/he may well be able to put you in touch with counselling and it will help if s/he knows about the problems you are having.  Please also come back to this forum whenever you want to just let our your feelings or discuss something.  Best wishes.  Annie

Hi there aggie.... oh my, you sound so grown up, with only being 14 ... and so much on your shoulders .. is your dad still around, or nan, or untie you can talk to... and support you ... life really is cruel and I wish l had a magic lamp right now to help ...  

The advice from Annie is really good ... try the rip rap site, and see if you get some comfort chatting to other ones who are in the same position as you hunny ... but wer always here if you need a shoulder to lean on ... McMillan may help with counselling, the more you talk about it the better... don't keep it all in .. even the strongest of us need help sometimes ... don't worry if you feel angry, or need to have a few tears as that's your hearts way of coping ... coz it's too hard keeping it all in ...

So Aggie I'm sending you a big hug, I'm so proud of you ... Chrissie x

Hello again.  Here is the link for Hope Support Services (I confess I forgot to provide to when I wrote you yesterday!)

http://www.hopesupport.org.uk/

Chrissie mentions MacMillan Cancer Support; they are a long-established charity who help anyone affected by cancer.  You can talk to them about how you feel, any uncertainties about your mum's treatment and more or less almost anything about what is happening in your heart and mind.  Their Freefone  number is 0808 808 0000.

Don't worry too much about the future (easy to say, I know) because there is a limited amount that you can do about this at the moment.  As Chrissie has already asked, I hope you have a larger family and if so they should be helping you both now and in the longer term.  But the priority for you at the moment is helping your beloved mum and working together with your siblings to support each other.  You come across as such a nice person but take some time out for yourself - I hope the organisations we have mentioned will help.  Annie

Thank you so much this is really helpful xx

Aw this is really sweet x

Thanks for the advice! Will do my best to talk about it. I will keep that shoulder to lean on in mind

Thank you Chrissie xxx

They really will thanks so much! We do have a really large family and they've all been so kind and helpful (my aunt in Yorkshire even came down for a week to help with the laundry and cooking!)

Thanks for the advice it really helps. You're absolutely right - I shouldn't worry too much about the future and there is a limited amount of what I can do now. I will try the riprap link now. I've just tried Macmillan and got locked out of my account for an hour (damn passwords!:D) 

Thank you so much for your kind words -- they mean a lot xx

Hiya Chrissie! Thank you so much for everything! Everything you've said has been so comforting to me and really helpful. I will try the helpline if I'm ever feeling super down and in need of help. I'm sure my family can pul together, and I will make sure to accept all help - I know everyone is doing their best to help us. 

I'm accepting that hug with open arms! Thanks so much for everything xx

Aggie <3

YOUR MOST WELCOME  ... any time you want a chat, no matter what you can always go on my picture and put in a friend request and I'll help you get you there ... you are AMAZING and bet your mum's so proud of you too ... one of my little nieces lost her dad when she was just 1 and his step kids were 8 and 12 ... 

They all still talk about him now with so much love, but they hold on all together on good and down days ... so I know from them, just a little how hard it is ... but honestly you have a little space in my heart ... so back at ya with with lots of hugs ... Chrissie x

Dearest Aggie, I’m so sorry you are going through this sweetheart. Thoughts and prayers are with you. You sound like an amazing daughter and sister and I don’t think there is anything you need to do more than you already are doing. I would say have some counselling at school and accept anything offered. If it helps great, if not it’s not for you but do try. All your mum will want is to know your ok and to have an amazing life yourself. My daughter was 11 when I had breast cancer and it was so hard to see her going through this with me so I feel so much for you. I am now well luckily but I just want you to know that you must always ask for help or support, don’t keep it in. Your mum must be so proud of you. Just keep being you. Sending massive hugs.....Lots of love Carolyn