I'm so sorry to be welcoming you to the forum under these circumstances Georgia but I want you to know that our lovely forum members are here for you and will do all they can to help you through this.

I know you've just joined us but I just wanted to make you aware of an Australian website specifically created for teenagers who have been affected by cancer. It's called canteen and has a lot of information and resources which I think will really help you at this time. They also have an area, similar to our forum, where you can chat to other young people online so do have a look when you get a chance as it's always nice to be able to talk to someone who is in a similar situation.

I hope this helps somewhat Georgia and that you're able to find a way to support your mum at this time.

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Thanks and thank you for the link its very helpful 

Hello Justgeorgia,

I lost my mother almost 4 years ago to lung cancer and I was diagnosed with lung cancer 2.5 months ago. I managed to have a right lobectomy immediately after New Year. I have gone through many losses in my own family with brother died in motorcycle accident and father died in colon cancer in the last 2 years. My suggestions to you in comforting your mother are the followings:

-massage her head, back, shoulders and area that she feels discomfort.

-use warm pads to relief her pain

-spending quality time with her, recalling her joyous moments in life 

-find counselors from local organizations to chat with her (my local community organization even came and took pictures of family members and made into an album for her)

-play Christian hymns or music she loves

My mother refused taking any pain medicine until her final month when the pain was the most severe. 

There is nothing more comforting than being with her as much as you can and bringing the best out of the situation. Will pray for you and your mother!

R

Hello Georgia, so sorry about your mum.  I hope you are getting help caring for your mum as it is a big job for one person, both physically and emotionally.  I have helped care for a few terminal cancer patients and one of the things I learned was that you should remain positive and try to be normal as possible when with your mum.  It is hard when your heart is breaking but you don't want your mum worrying about your emotional state.  It is good that you have been put in touch with others in your position.

You are always welcome to chat with us here and tell us how you are feeling.

Hi Georgie, I am so sorry to hear about your mum. I'm in a similar situation. My mum was diagnosed with throat cancer four years ago which spread to her neck and lungs and now it looks as though she's ready to die. I'm not sure what to say to my mum at times either, I wish there were magic words that would solve everything and it's devastating watching her suffer and not being able to do anything. I wish you all the best, I'll keep you in prayer.