It’s terminal

My fiancé has been battling cancer for a year now and it’s been a Wirl wind? He’s had three rounds of chemo that’s lasted 12 weeks at a time and today was the scann to see what was happening 

he’s had his scan come back and they found two new tumours on his brain aswell as new ones around his body and the chemo he’s just had hasn’t worked and everything has grown inside, there gonna take a proper look at his scan to see if he can have radio therapy to help reduce the swelling and maybe offer him mild chemo to help keep at bay, but eventually the cancer will take over and kill him, I was told by a relative that the dr had told him he had 2 months but the drs told me that we won’t no how long untill we can see if the radio and chemo will keep it down 

He is dealing with this very well and says he’s gonna fight it as much as he can but I know he’s just putting a brave face on for everyone else. But I’m heartbroken I’ve only been with him for 2 and half years and we’ve been through so much it feels like I’ve had him for no time at all, i don’t know what to say to him 

  • Hi Nicole

    I sometimes think cancer is harder on loved ones than the actual sufferer.  To support your fiance you are going to need your own support - don't be afraid to reach out to the professionals, that's what they are there for.  CRUK has a helpline, as do many other cancer charities.   It might be helpful to contact the charity that focuses on the type of cancer your fiance has.  Don't give up hope yet, it might help to follow the link on this website "Take part in studies & research" - possibly there is a clinical trial your fiance could take part in.  The oncology teams are not always aware of what is currently available - they simply don't have the time.  Hope this helps

  • Hello.Nicole.  So sorry to read about your fiance.  I cannot really add much to DaveO's post except to say I am so sorry that after all the unplesantness of chemo and the hope you must have had the results did not improve your fiance's situation.  Please do reach out to friends and professional support (Macmillan Cancer Support are one but there are others too) as you need to look after yourself in order to help your fiance. 

     I would just tell your fiance that you love him and will be with him all the way - but I expect he knows that already.