Hi there ... boy your trying to cut yourself in two , bless yards... but the thing you need to focus on is you have a great husband and good friends, so put your in laws at the back of your mind ... with husband and friends that will get you through ... I've known a few in laws who, no mater what you do, you can't please them ... but look after you first, don't get so exhausted, that you make your self I'll... 

But realise what your doing is amazing ... your mum must be very proud of you ... but have a bit of time for you so you can cope ... sending you a big old hug ... chrisie xx

Thank you so much for your reply.  I really appreciate your advice and the time you've taken. I'm going back today to see the children and feel much better about bit. Mum and Dad want that too. Then I can be back here later in the week. X

Bless your heart took my mum to chest x ray followed by a ct diagnosed lung and liver cancer just had a cough for a few months nothing bad no signs of being ill until about a week ago seemed to have a big loss of energy consult says few months heartbreaking so feel your pain xx