Welcome to the forum Marguerite.

I'm sorry no one was around in the early hours this morning to chat but I just wanted to let you know we're thinking of you and wishing you luck for your appointment with the doctor today. Have you been able to think of any other questions you may want to ask? If not and you haven't had the appointment yet you're more than welcome to give our cancer nurses a call for some help and advice. Their number is 0808 800 4040 and are available Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m.

Do come back and let us know what happens when you can Marguerite. We'll have our fingers crossed for the best possible timescale you could be given in this situation.

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. 

My dad is dying of prostate cancer and I have had some time to accept I'm going to lose him soon. It might be not helpful for other people, but what made me accept his death is the fact that me and everybody I know is going to die someday (I know, it's silly but it's my only confort).

The only thing that matters to me is that my dad's suffering is minimized, which just doesn't happen in *** country like mine. He's having zero medical care since there's practically no palliative treatment here... the hospital he does radiation doesn't even have morphine for patients. Opioids taken orally are not working for him. 

I am saying this because I got the idea that your brother's pain is being managed (you said he was in a morphine pump) and I think that might be something you might be grateful for. We are all going to die, but suffering should be managed. I really hope your brother is comfortable in his last months/weeks.

Don't forget to post updates on his situation. Wish you all the best.