Hi Katie

I'm sorry at the age of 22 you've heard the words Stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer  On April 2, 2017 my husband 53 years old and I were sitting in an Oncologist office when the Oncologist said you have Pancreatic Cancerand and it has metastasized to your lung and liver however it is treatable not curable.  Surgery in your case is not an option.  He went on to say with Chemo three months without one year.  If you so choose Chemo we need to start immediately.  They would do one day of Chemo a week for three weeks with one week off.

our nephew who is 30 was with us at the doctors office with us since he lived in the city where the doctor we were referred to office is.

we went to our nephews apartment because we stayed there while meeting with Oncologist's and having blood work done.  We called my husband's father on speaker phone and our nephew told him what the oncologist said. My husband looked at me and said "did you know the oncologist meant I only had three months to live without Chemo and up to one year to live with Chemo?"  I said yes.  The next phone calls were to our children.  Two boys 23 years old and a 21 year old daughter.

we had been married 13 years and telling our children was very difficult because my husband had never been sick a day in his life.

I pray you are not his only caregiver.  Pancreatic Cancer is ugly.  I was fortunate that we were empty nesters.  I had to learn definitions to words I had never heard before and trying to arrange his meds around meal times.  While doing this I couldn't cry because it would upset him.  If our children had still lived at home I don't know how I would have cared for him while and trying to remind our children to keep the faith only God knows how much time a person has left.

we were in and out of the hospital due to complications.  Trying to keep our Chemo appointments but we're told several times his platelet count was to low for Chemo.

on November 2, 2017 my husband passed away at home with us by his side.  So when I said Pancreatic Cancer is ugly I meant it because I saw it every day.

if you need someone who understands exactly what you are going thru I'm here for you.  You can talk to me, ask questions, pray with you or for your father, or someone to cry with please know I'm here and you can lean on me or yell at me.  Trust me having someone to yell at does help.

Hi There.

I am so so sorry for your loss, its such a sad and rubbish thing to go through but thank you for taking the time to share your story with me.

Its all just so hard to process isnt it. Makes me wonder what I actually had to worry about before all of this. Makes everything else seem so unimportant.

I hope you and your children are doing okay, or as well as you possible can be doing in a time like this.

Thank you so much for your kind words, it honestly means alot to me knowing theres people like you out there who are willing to help me through this.

Hello there, thank you so much for leaving me a message. I honestly really appreciate your kind words.

Im so so sorry for your loss of your dad. Youre so brave going through all of that and still having the courage to be with him right till the end. Im sure he would be so proud of you.

Its amazing how many people have similar stories & i feel the same, its so comforting having people to speak to who understand exactly.

hopefully speak soon xx

Hello.

I'm so sorry for your loss, beyond rubbish isnt it. I know its one of those things that will always be crap but when you feel like times been cut so short its even worse.

Did your mum pass recently? Im sure she'd be so proud of you and happy for you with all of your achievements at law school.

thank you for the message, hopefully we can chat some more soon x

Hello, I hope u don’t mind me asking, but I’m eager to know.. my mum was diagnosed with stage 4 inoperable pancreas cancer that has spread to her liver and walls of her stomach, they offered her chemo saying only a handful of years if it all goes well. She hasn’t eaten for months prior to the diagnosis - our GP said ‘u have an infection in ur body but we just don’t know where, I’ve referred u to a specialist’ we were waiting weeks until I forced her to go to the hospital, they did their scans - found the mass and called her in the following week to confirm it was cancer. For about a week after her diagnosis she was going really well drinking her energy drinks for strength but her mouth was starting to blister up and her tongue was red raw, so she physically couldn’t drink those anymore, we went for our first chemo talk on Wednesday but she is too weak to start It, they said it’s thrush of the mouth, and given her meds to clear it and steroids to increase her appetite hopefully to build her strength ready to go back in two weeks to start chemo, she still isn’t eating and like u say cancer is ugly to see it eating away at them, did ur husband start chemo immediately? Was he bein sick all the time unable to hold down food, I just feel like we haven’t had the best start to the chemo process and it’s hard to keep up hope, like yourself I can’t cry in front of her I have to be strong.. I just hope she’s not giving up.. she’s had 3 heart attacks and survived and now this is killing her.. she’s only 64 and I’ve just turned 30 and an only child it’s horrible seeing both my parents go through this