I think most people have a sympathy limit when a problem doesn't directly impact on them.

When I was diagnosed and became very ill, very quickly, all my children, adults, immediately took time off work, telling their employers they'd return if and when things calmed down. 

They spent their time with me. Better to cry with me than with those at work.

Your dad seems to be very ill at the moment and you're in limbo, not knowing his prognosis. If I were in your position I'd leave work immediately and spend your time with your dad.

I think it might help you both.

Regards

Taff.

He has been given 6 months at the best and I've been told I won't have a job to come back to if I take more time off I lost my stepdad 6th may 2016  to prostate cancer and dementia and I took 6 weeks off to help my mum nurse him its not right or fair.

The feeling are more intense this time as its my biological dad so means more and we have a strong bond 

Some jobs ain't worth the candle. I'd not want to work for such an employer.

Hi

my wife's ad the same problem, I was diagnosed incurable, my wife took a lot of time off, although they said they understood what she was going through, they did not, there is pamphlets on this subject as regards employers understanding cancer, but non ever bother, as others have said unless it involves them, they have no idea the stress and heartache this can cause.

In the end my wife left her works after being there ten years, she is having interviews for a new position, but just glad to be somewhere else who understands what cancer can cause in a family.

take care

joe

My dad passed away sat 30th with his family around him we feel badly let down by doctors as we were forced to keep in in hospital when his wish was to die at home this has made the grieving process harder to bear as we are all feeling like we failed our dad 

I'm so very sorry to hear about the passing of your Dad - I cant begin to imagine how you must be feeling at this time xx

much (((hugs))) to you and your family xx

Sorry, I've only just seen your post. My condolences on your loss.

I don't feel that you let your Dad down, some things just turn out differently from what we plan or hope for. At least you were all with him.

When my cancer gets me, my most fervent wish is that my family lives, and by that I mean they get on and live the lives they want to with their own families, rather than constantly mourn me. I want them to smile and laugh and live and love.

Again, my condolences.

Best Regards

Taff

Hi

I might be speaking for every one on here, but are hearts go out to you, I personally know how you feel as I ve gone through this and now I have the problem of PC.

People say times a healer, but grieving is some times a lonely place to be, try to keep with others wether they understand or not it's better than going into a shell.

You will always remember your dad and that's a good thing, memories are all we have of loved ones,I hope in time things get better for you.

Joe

Sorry to hear about your loss and the way you were treated by your employers. While there’s no legal right to compassionate leave in the UK, most employers will gladly let you take time off or allow you to use annual leave. Unfortunately, you’re only legally entitled to time off to deal with an emergency concerning a dependant (a dependant in this case can be your husband, wife, civil partner, parents, children or someone living with you who isn’t a tenant). This includes time off to attend or organise a funeral. If you’re still struggling with grief it might be worth visiting your doctor to see if they think you’re fit to work as they may provide you with a note. A bill entitling parents to paid bereavement leave following the death of a child is being considered in Parliament as of November 2017. Hopefully this will lead to a better understanding by some employers around the need to spend time with loved ones and to grieve.