Hi I was given months without treatment... in April. I had chemo and it shrunk the tumour in my lungs to nothing and only a spot in my liver and In my nodes it's just inflammation left with just the spine cancer that doesn't want to go. I start radiotherapy today. My oncologist says it will return but there are other types of chemo I can try when it does. Your right time is precious but you can't think just about cancers you need to try and push past and through and live as if it's not there so it that it's your body and your the landlady/landlord and it lives by your rules. I hope your husband improves and you as a couple enjoy the time he has x

Oh Linda life's hard hey and very unfair it's all the waiting between it's just horrible x I visit my mum every other day and I'm taking one day at a time and trying to make lots of happy memories x my thoughts are with you and you must try to look after yourself I'm very run down because I didn't eat for a week after they confirmed how long she has left but I need to keep strong for her x 

Hi Lynda

so sorry to hear this. 

Last month I found out my dad has lung and pancreatic cancer. Last week I was told he has a few weeks! 

I cant concentrate on anything. I can't even go to work. 

I don't know how on earth I will cope when he is gone. 

I was pregnant and had a miscarriage cos of the stress. 

Life is so hard. I know I'm not the one with the cancer but my god the pain I feel is unbearable. 

Im so close to my family but I cant talk to them not even my husband. I zone out to and just sit alone and think about all the pain my Dad is in.

Im only 28 and think you live all your life then one day U find out your dying. It's so hard.

i just wish my dad was ok and wish he could of met his future grandchildren.

thinking of u and sending u a big hug xxxx

Hi Claire,

I hope that you get your Mum moved soon. It is so upsetting when you feel that she is not in the right place.

I hope that the hospice gives her the care and attention that she needs. Nobody wants to lose their Mum, but there comes a stage when we just have to let her go. You are quite right in taking things day-by-day at present.

Thinking of you both.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Vickyjmm,

I am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis, but am glad to see that you are in charge of your cancer and living as normal a life as you can.

I am delighted to hear that your chemo was not in vain and that it has shrunk everything so well, with the exception of your spine.

I hope that the radiotherapy is going well too and that a different type of chemo might just kick the spine cancer into touch - never give up hope, miracles do happen and, I hope that they happen for you.

We do not appreciate life enough when we are healthy. It is a very precious commodity. Take each day as if it were your last and enjoy it to the full.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Lynda,

Just wonderin how your husband is coping with his chemo?

Thinking of you both.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi jolamine, 

hubby is coping better than I expected, no nasty side effects, he is very tired all the time and nauseous.

we are on the 2nd cycle of Gemcarbo, he is doing 4 cycles then scan to see if it has worked, that will be scary waiting for the results of the scan

Hi Rojoy,

Welcome to Cancer Chat. Although you may not have wanted to join any forum, you will find that we are quite a friendly bunch, who all know exactly what you are going through. We are here for you any time you want to talk and can give you the benefit of first - hand  experience, information and advice or we offer a place just to vent if that is what you need.

I have gone through what you are going tthrough with my Mum and, have been going through it myself for the past 7 years. Do you have any family or friends who you can confide in?   A cancer diagnosis affects the whole family and it can be good to have someone who is not a family member to talk to. You are right not to waste a moment but to make the most of every day. Life is so precious, yet we don't really value it until we are in danger of losing it. It is incredably difficult to deal with the uncertainty of this disease and,to keep your distress from your husband when you are hurting so much yourself.

I feel for you at this stage and wish that I could do something to help you through this. By all means let the tears flow in your private moments. This is a good way of relieving stress.

Please keep in touch. We are always here for you whenever you feel like talking.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx