Granny

Hello, my granny was diagnosed with breast cancer about 2 years ago, she received radiotherapy and had a lumpectomy and got the all clear ,nearly a year later she was diagnosed again with breast cancer and spread to the bones, she had received 11 rounds of chemotherapy and hasn't reaches well, she was given the news yesterday that her cancer is terminal and there is no more. They can do to help her,I feel absolutely devastated ,she hasn't asked how long she has left with us, as she didn't want to know, I am feeling so scared for her and really don't know what is to come, I'm sitting here crying wondering how I'm going to cope, I feel so selfish as I should be thinking of her. 

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    Hi Campbell.

    Your reaction to your granny’s terminal diagnosis is perfectly normal. This is the way most of us react when first given such shattering news. You do not say what age she is or what age you are. Somehow or other we all find the strength to cope with such tragedy.

    The trick is not to look at the whole big picture, which is too difficult to cope with, but to take things day by day and in bite sized chunks.

    Instead of dwelling on the end of life, why not try to make some memorable memories with her if she is well enough to do this with you? There will probably be people she wants to see and things she wants to do. Can you help her to achieve these goals?

    You will both feel better with this more positive attitude rather than being all doom and gloom. Do you have a good support network of family and friends? This is always helpful, as this can be a harrowing time. I hope that you can succeed in having some good times together.

    Remember that we are always here to support you when things get hard.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx