My dad has got terminal pancreatic cancer

My dad was diagnosed in February with incurable pancreatic cancer it has spread to his liver. I live near my mum & dad and my one sibling my brother lives 140 miles away. I have a really tough job 2 kids and a mega busy life and am finding it hard to support my mum. She is struggling to deal with my dads deteriorating psychological state. His symptoms are that he has got a very swollen abdomen which is uncomfortable. He is on Oxycodone slow release tablets 15mg twice a day. He is having palliative chemotherapy. My dad is 73 and my mum is 70. They have run their own business for 40 years and still work now. My husband has recently taken over the business so that is taking the strain off my parents. I am dreading what is to come, the deterioration. It's heartbreaking. What are your experiences of this dreadful disease? 

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  • Hi my mum 67 was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer in June 2015, with mets to liver. Prognosis was bleak - she could not have surgery and was placed on pallative chemo. After 9 rounds of pallative chemo mets had disappeared from her liver and the Tumor had shrunk by 80% - to date it has laid dormant - but to us dormancy is as good as remission. We take each day a step at a time. Some are positive and upbeat - some are the pits - but remember all you can do is try your best - I have told my story as we come on here looking for hope and inspiration X - forgot to add - I live near my mum - she still works fulltime and my brother lives far away - you will find strength x

  • my best friend has just been told she has pancreatic cancer.  It is advanced and she has just had her first  round of chemo.  |She is due her second  round next week.  She is 66.  What are the chances  for her.

  • I am so sorry to hear your news.  It is a dreadful dreadful disease that goes undetected until the time it is normally too late. I would like to give you hope as our Consultant said the one day when I asked him "I have hope for all my patients".  Unfortunately it wasn't to be for my lovely husband but I held on to the hope that a small percentage do have several years left if the treatment works.   My husband unfortunately was also advanced and chemo didn't work as it gave him other problems preventing having it several weeks.  My heart goes out to you and hope she is successful.  Please ask if you want any other advice.

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  • I am so sorry to hear your news.  It is a dreadful dreadful disease that goes undetected until the time it is normally too late. I would like to give you hope as our Consultant said the one day when I asked him "I have hope for all my patients".  Unfortunately it wasn't to be for my lovely husband but I held on to the hope that a small percentage do have several years left if the treatment works.   My husband unfortunately was also advanced and chemo didn't work as it gave him other problems preventing having it several weeks.  My heart goes out to you and hope she is successful.  Please ask if you want any other advice.

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