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Terminally ill.....and single

Sonic33
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I don't want to spend the time I have left on my own but is it fair to let someone into my life and build on a relationship knowing the cancer will win eventually. I have this overwhelming feeling of guilt if I allow this to happen- guilty for cutting short what should be a forever after. I don't know how much time I have left so this is an emotional mine field. 

Any wise words?

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    Hi Sonic. I'm sorry to hear about your situation and can't claim to know how you must feel. No wise words here unfortunately but I'd still encourage you to do it. Live, love and have no regrets. Your time with the other person might be the thing that makes their life worth living and if you both go into it with your eyes open why not. there will be hard times but no one is guaranteed a tomorrow, the only difference is you both have the heads up to enjoy all the moments you can now.
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    Im not in your situation but do have a terminally ill relative and I was also nurse for years. I can't pretend to know what you are going through. One thing I know through my work is certain (I worked in A&E) Life is unpredictable for all of us. I know it's a cliche but none of us know what is around the corner...you've been given a heads up. . ( And I'm very sorry about this) We have to grab every chance for happiness we can get, as the other commentator said, as long as you both go into it with your eyes wide open. You deserve happiness! I'm not good with advice but hope you can see I've tried xx

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    Thank you bobmichaels for you supportive words. Eyes wide open is the key I think as relationships are not based on health. Just need to find my confidence now to pursue the dating scene x 

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    Thank you jojo. grabbing a chance of happiness is with someone gives me motivation. my friends and family give me love and support but it's companionship that I'm missing. We don't know what's round the corner so here's to love and happiness xx

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