Need to talk

My Mum was diagnosed 18 months ago with ovarian and bowel cancer. Long story short 12 days ago she went to hospital as she was feeling unwell, we thought it was due to her chemo. They basically told her at 3 am she had 2-3 days to live. We were shellshocked, I brought her home, 12 days later she is still hanging in there. She is frail, hasn't eaten for over 14 days, getting weaker, still gas a sense of humour but dying before my eyes. I sleep on the floor by her bed as I never want her to be alone. My life has stopped I know it's a matter of days and it is killing me to know this. I am deverstated beyond words. I am 52 and my Mum is my life, you always need your Mum.

  • So sorry to hear what you are going through, but it sounds like you are an amazing daughter!!

    There are no words of comfort as the experience is devastating, but i imagine that your mum is extremely proud of you and very grateful that you are with her during this difficult time. There will be times when you wonder how you are going to go on like this, and will think that you can't, but you will because you love her.

    My thoughts are with you, you are not alone - sending hugs xx

  • Sorry.

    I suppose you must find strength in the fact that you are both there for eachother - her during your life and now you during hers. Not many people have a strong relationship with their family and especially a positive one such as yourself. You have already won on the lottery of life to clearly have had a good mother that raised you well. She has done you good and by your dedication during difficult times I'm sure you're also doing her proud.

  • Honey, I know your pain as I am just a little behind you on this awful journey. My mum has lung cancer and it has now spread and I am watching her begin to fade. I am 46 and my mum and I have always been close. I can't sleep for fretting about the days and weeks (if I am lucky) ahead. I send you love and know that even at the darkest time you are not alone xxxx
  • Your situation sounds very similar to mine with my Mum. I'm not coping too well.
  • what a lovely reply to this amazing lady x

  • i am very sorry to hear about your mom, i lost mine back in may last year and you never really get over it just learn to live with it the best that you can... some days are better than others... things will never be the same again that is for sure... your best friend is gone and everything you do she will always be missing.... i was lucky enough to have a wonderful mother and it sounds like you do as well... you're staying by her and like others have said i'm sure she is very proud of the daughter she has raised... it will be hard but you must carry on because she would want you to and her memories and the person she was will live on through you... as devestating as it is we must all lose our moms at some point it's then up to us to continue living how we were raised...

    god bless x

  • Sorry for not getting back to you recently mum was in hospital all of last week .

    How are you doing? Xx

     

  • I am so sorry honey to hear about your mummy x i lost my mummy five years ago to COPD and im still struggling xx I also am watching my daddy through terminal cancer he is in the hospice and not too good at all my nerves are shot to pieces he has gone dowbhill so quick, it is such a difficult time for you honey but i am always here if you want to talk as are these other lovely members, may God bless you xxxxxx

  • Hi My Mams situation was very similar. I was told it was anytime and my Mam lived a further 14 days. It's hell on earth and you have no control. My Mam died on 22nd Feb and it's still not real