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Dad has weeks to live

AliL
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Just over two weeks ago we found out that Dad had secondary cancers in his lung and liver, he's 74. He was given a biopsy a few days later, but before we got these results, Dad developed jaundice and was taken into hospital.

After more blood tests and various other samples, we we told a week ago tomorrow that they think the cancer started in the bowel and that my Dads cancer was terminal due to this very aggressive cancer in his liver.  We were told he has a few 'short' weeks left. He couldn't have a transplant or chemo.

Devasted is an understatement, but I'm trying to be strong for my mum and dad and trying to spend as much time with him as I can. At the moment he's acting so normally, if he wasn't getting so tired and yellow looking, you wouldn't know he was ill!

I know many people have to go through this pain. Just wanted to share my experience and keep strong for my family, especially my 5 year old son who adores his Grandad.

Thanks for reading this.

Ali 

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    Hi Ali

    I feel your pain. We were told my Dad has Stomach, Pancreas and Liver cancer and is terminal too. I asked the 'how long' question and was told "months, certainly not years" however we are now 10 days from that and he's getting weaker by the day. 
    Its horrible seeing him go through it, I'm the only child he has and he's divorced from my Mum. He has a partner but she's more of a hinderence than a help. 
    I've managed to be with him all day today on our own, just me and him. I listened to all his old stories I've heard a million times before and hung on every word. i've come home and written them down so I dont forget them. 
    You will have 'moments' where you collapse in grief, I know I do. I cry and sob uncontrollably, but it helps me recharge and deal with the next few days. Its always the silly stuff that sets me off too. I said something yesterday about not having to tax his car and I was gone. 
    Cherish the time you have with him, its all we can do really.
    Best wishes

    Lisa

    xx

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    Thank you Lisa for your kind words. I feel the same as you, silly things set me off and I can't quite believe that sometime soon he will be gone.

    I hope you get to spend many more precious moments with your Dad and great idea about writing all the stories down!

     

    Sending you and your family lots of love 

    Ali x

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    hi there, I'm sorry to hear what your going through at this sad time, my dad died 7 weeks ago tomor and it's not getting any easier for me , he lasted 6 weeks from diagnosis to the end of his life, the cancer had spread to 6 places in the end so there was no chance for him,it really is the most awful thing to have to go through, I'm trying to be here for my mum as she was with my dad for 47 years but I just can't make it any better for her, I don't know wot to do... wendy x
  • Offline in reply to wendy L
    Hi Wendy, So sorry to hear about your Dad. It's so sad for everyone involved. You just need to be there for each other to have a cry, talk or just cuddle. Time does heal but you'll never forget your dad. Sending you and your family lots of love Ali x

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