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Hello, I am so heartbroken, we just found out today that after a year of my dad battling cancer the chemo is not working and my dad has very little time left. I don't know how to deal with the pain I am feeling and I have to be strong for my mum and dad. Just thought I'd reach out to anyone else going through this.

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    Hi Sammie

    So sorry to hear of your sad news. i recently lost my dad and i recall when he told me it was terminal, i too was at a loss. The only thing i can say is that your dad hasn't gone yet. Make the most of every minute, tell him you love him often and if he is well enough create some happy memories.

    When the time comes, you will surprise yourself with how strong you can be, love is a powerful motivator. This site is brilliant for sharing and talking about your feelings without having to worry about making people feel uncomfortable as they dont know what to say (ie friends who have not experienced this), or to burden family when you want to show strength, so do visit regularly to vent and gain strength from others who know what you are going through.

    Take care of yourself so that you can take care of them!

     

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    Hi 
    We were told last Wednesday that my Dad not only has cancer, but its terminal. We'd suspected stomach, but he has pancreas and liver too. He's going to have a shot of palliative radiotherapy but thats it. 
    I'm spending as much time as I can with him. He's currently in hospital so physically I dont have to worry. He has good days and bad days so its a bit of a rollercoaster. 
    I'm much the same. Most of the time I'm doing okay, but then it'll hit me that i'm going to loose him and will never EVER see him again and i can't bare it. I break down, have a good cry, pick myself up and carry on. Its all we can do
    hugs to you and your family 

    xxxx

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    Hi I am in the same postion. We have found out my dad has terminal cancer and the docs said he has months left. Its so heartbreaking and I am struggling with the thoughts of what life will be like without my dad.

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    Hi Sammie, Sorry to hear about your Dad. I am caring for my mom who was diagnosed with terminal cancer in November. We never knew she had cancer prior to this. She is currently having palliative chemotherapy and has at best a few months. It is hard to watch a close relative in pain and deteriorating. I have worked in the NHS and naturally assumed l was the best person to be her carer. I never realised how the emotional side would impact on this. We are taking one day at a time. Chappers
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    hi sammie so sorry to hear about your dad my dad got told on 29th july 2016 that he had cancer he tryed 3 different types of chemo which none seem to work then he got told just b4 xmas theres no more they can do but dad seem ok he was a bit tired said he had no pain then on 13/02/2017 dad fell over in doors which was on a sunday dad rapidly went down he pasted on thursday he went from getting mums car mot to being bed ridden we sat up day and all night holding dads hand he could nt talk drink or anything in the end we cant get over it has it was to quick my dad had stage 4 diffuse large b- cell lymphoma spend every second with your dad we r griving at the moment and its very hard xx
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    My dad got a terminal diagnosis on the 8th March so I know exactly what you're going through - if you ever need to talk/vent gimme a shout! X 

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