End of Life

I cannot believe the speed with which this disease is killing my husband of fifty years. We were celebrating our golden wedding in Crete when he was taken into hospital for a strangulated hernia. It was there that we were informed he had fluid in the abdominal cavity and that it was, in fact, secondary cancer.

Somehow - with the aid of friends, a wheelchair and Olympic Airways, I got him back to the UK and as directed by the Greek doctors took him straight to hospital.

That was a mere three weeks ago and we've been told he won't see the summer, in fact he is deteriorating so quickly I doubt he'll see the spring.

There was no warning so in my head I am not really prepared. I won't see the world without him until it actually happens. How I'll feel by then I don't know. I keep positive but there are times when I fall to pieces.

  • Hi very sorry to read your post. I was in same situation last Christmas. Husband died of a cancer of unknown origin over a three week period. One minute he was out and about. A great walker grand children. The next gone. We were married for forty one years. It's hard and still is. I and our children sat with him during the three week period talking about our live for him. All the funny things that happened over our life together. I miss him badly and although back at work find daily living difficult. My children have been very supportive which has helped. I take each day as it comes. 

    I had breast cancer three years prior to his illness and we had thought it was going to be me who died first. There is no rhyme or reason to it all. 

    Take care of yourself and try to enjoy your last moments as this will help you in the long tun. WA