Feeling Lost

Hi,

Just wondering if anyone can help. We found out my dad has stomach cancer about a month ago and he's been given 6-9 months to live. 

He's decided today that he's going to take palliative chemotherapy. 

We have obviously all been turned upside down by the news and until recently, I've been feeling like I was holding it all together quite well. I'm now feeling lost and struggling emotionally.

My emotions are running all over the place, I am snappy, irritable and generally down. I'm crying very easily quite often. I'm trying my best to stay upbeat for my family but I don't know how to do it. The idea of him going through chemotherapy is scaring the life out of me and I'm struggling to take everything in. I'm usually quite strong but I'm not at all at the moment. 

If anyone can give me any advice,whatever that nay be, I'd be really appreciative. 

Thank you,

Jen

  • So sorry to hear your news I just wanted to send you some love xx

  • Hi Jen,

    I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. My Dad was diagnosed with erminal bowel cancer 3 weeks ago. Yesterday I got back from visiting my parents for a few days. Having tried to squash all my feelings down during that time I broke down sobbing just after turning the corner at the end of their road. I sobbed for miles driving back from Norfolk to Cornwall.

    My Dad's diagnosiss came three days after my best friend died. What I realised is that I'm glad we've got some time to prepare, to have important conversations and hear what my Dad thinks and feels about it all. 

    You and I both have so many tears to come and the only way I can think to face what lies ahead is to accept that it is going to be emotional and allow the tears to come out when they need to. 

    Hugs and love to you xxxx