Gbm4

My very active husband had been given 3 months. He had awake cranial surgery last July. Radiotherapy seemed to work but the Temodar chemo didn't so its grown back fast. He or we decided to go for no treatment and try to enjoy last days. But he went away. He's choosing to live with his cousin by the sea so that he can cycle sail walk by the sea. The sea is very big in his life. I will go rent somewhere close from time to time but he doesn't want me to manage his last days.its very odd. It's lonely. Its difficult explaing to neighbors that this is his way. I wonder if this has happened to any one else. ? I'm doing my best.I have to learn to live without him . but he's my husband and I love and miss him. 

  • Hello Glioma,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I am so sorry to hear that your husband's chemotherapy didn't work and that he has been given three months and isn't going to have any further treatment.

    How difficult it must be for you though to not be by his side and to stand by his wish to be by the sea. I hope you can go and visit him often and rent nice places by the sea. I can imagine it must be really hard to explain to the neighbours but try not to worry too much about what the neighbours will think or will say - the most important thing is that you are being a great source of support to him. It is truly moving to read how much you love him and that you are prepared to be away for him to respect his wishes.

    I hope you will meet others here who have faced a similar situation and that they will be along soon to share their individual stories with you.

    Best wishes,

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator