Advise

My Mum was given a couple of weeks to live nine weeks ago .  She has lung cancer that has spread to both lungs .   She is up and down sometimes I think the end is coming next day she is up and about.   I find it difficult to Carry on with life day to day.  I have been ill with one thing and another for months my Mum was in hospitial for thre month we never thought she would see Christmas .  She is now in a Nursing Home .  I feel so weak for not coping I cry most days my marriage is suffering .  I've seen Dr who advised conselling I went once and cried so much I was sick.  Dr said I am greiving but it feels like I Am in a mess and so alone .

  • Hi,  I believe this is called anticipation greif.

    I was told my Dad had 4-6 months last July.  He is still here.  My problem is that nobody will talk to me.  Not his GP or the hospital due to patient confidentiality. 

    He lives alone and will no longer allow me to visit - I cannot stop myself from crying.

    I feel for you, I cannot cope with everyday life, and it feels like nobody understands.

  • Hi . Thanks why won't he let you visit .   My Mum can sometimes be awful with me I see her each day and always have before illness but she can be so cruel I think it's the illness and steriods.  Sorry for your circumstances.  I feel guilty for moaning . 

     

  • My full situation is explained in my post on this forum.  He is very proud and thinks I do not know how ill he is.

    You are not moaning, you care and have already started the greiving process.  Yes, the medication will surely have somethiing to do with how your mum is feeling.  She may also feel very angry at life...not at you.  Your mum may also be afraid.  My Dad was in denial for a long long time.

    Did she know she had the cancer previously?