hi we received the deverstating news last night that at the medical meeting my mum had the cancer in her thoat gullet and slightly above her kidney and near her pancreus , my mum is 85 and now weighes 4 stone 10 ,and been in hospital 5 weeks . she could not even swollow her tablets yesterday , and is sick after solid food , they are surgesting a stent , whixh if she doent have she may last 3 month and will basicly starve to death , or if she has this stent it may give her a extra 3 months , i know it has to be mums desision , but i dont want her to suffer with either , i live 120 miles away and am trying to juggle work , visiting mum  and my home and finances , i really dont want her to die like this , im so scared