I'm ever so sorry to hear about your mother's recent diagnosis. Although the word sorry will never really be enough. Reading your post took me back to the past and how I felt at the time and it still haunts me. 

Two years this April my dad was diagnosed with stage 4 incurable bowel cancer which has spread to his lungs and liver. I was with my sister at the time, it was a nice sunny day and we went to the park for a stroll with our kids. We'd only been there 5 minutes when my phone rang 'Mum' we both knew this was the phone call we'd all been waiting for as we didn't know what was wrong with Dad. I could tell by my mum's voice something was wrong but I didn't think it was as serious as it was. 'Dad's got cancer, bowel cancer and it's spread to his lungs and liver...the doctor said to him I'm sorry but it is incurable' my sister and I collapsed onto the ground and she screamed. My daddy is going to die that's all I kept thinking. Then all these future events flashed through my mind, I'm not yet married, I've only got one child etc what if he misses out. The sky actually turned grey and it started to rain once we found out this dreadful news. None of us knew what would happen or when. I'd wake up in the night crying, couldn't eat, I tried to sleep whenever I could as it meant I didn't have to think about the pain. The feeling can't be described or put into words it's truly breath taking. Anyways almost 2 years later after his diagnosis he's still here and coping extremely well. There's been a few steep bumps along the way, one when his bowel had a blockage almost killing him then he caught pneumonia and the second was when he had a stroke which was caused by a poorly fitted PICC line. I'm so happy he's still here it's not an immediate death sentence. I know everyone's different and each cancers different but no two people are alike. Time is precious and it's important to create memories with all our loved ones, that's all you can do. Writing on here helps, even if there isn't any questions you want to ask, just putting how you feel can help a lot. You are right though, life does carry on which is difficult when you're facing such a heartbreaking situation. 

Hi, Thank you for both for your replies and sharing your situations with me. I cant believe how many people are going through such similar situations . I am sorry to hear about yours, Its just so so awful. 

Mums next scan is next week to see if the cancer is anywhere and then her first chemo two days after, which I am going too. 

Life deals pretty crap hands sometimes but I am not going to think to much about it & take it a day at a time.

Thanks and sending you both and your families strength xx

Hi 

I know you wrote this is January and it's august but wondered how things are. 3 week ago my amazing beautiful mum, my best friend in the world was diagnosed with a brain tumor that is cancer and inoperable . We are all completely devastated and in shock. They gave her months but we are waiting for a biopsy on Monday to see what treatment she can have. She had three beautiful grandchildren between me and my brother and sadly/ happily  I am.8 week's pregnant after trying for 2 years :-( 

I don't know how I meant to cope.

Struggling big time and we've not been offered any support.

Regards Gemma

Hi my lovely....here is my story: My momma was diagnosed with Endometrial cancer in later 2013 early 2014. She had her entire insides removed - she was diagnosed at late stage 2/ early stage 3. She had the surgery, then months of chemo and then a month of radiation. The doctors said that some of the cancer has spread to the lymph nodes but further chemo.would help control it. For about two years she was fine....doctors found a few small spots on her left lung but weren't too sure they said. We all knew what it was..... we aren't stupid. We knew her cancer spread to her lung and we knew at this point it had become metastatic. The docs said the spots were not growing and it was impossible to chemo such small growth as this would cause damage to other parts of the body. Her cancer although removed completely from her womb, was now in het lung. She was totally fine for 2.5 years....then this June / early July - she had breathing problems.... she collapsed in late July, the doctors said she has fluid build up which needed draining. We were informed that the cancer had significantly grown...she came back home after having her lung drained and then a few days later she had to go back in....as she blacked out. She went into hospital....and never came back home. She was in the hospital for eight days ....her lung being drained, she was heavily on morphine and in tremendous pain. She got weaker and weaker....cancer had grown to 10 cm....and was putting alot of pressure on her lung. My brother called me the Tuesday 25th of July to tell me to come to Canada as they were unsure whether momma would recover or not. I booked a flight for me and my 11 year old boy....the Apple of my mom's eye. I could not get a flight for any earlier except 29th of July Saturday. Things got worse by Thursday / Friday....the CT scans showed it was inoperable, and statistics were laid out to us....even if she did survive it would be a 20% chance with alot of pain. I was on the flight ....so unreachable. That morning my brothers were told that my mom had maybe a few hours or a day at most. She started to dysphixiate at 10 am....so docs gave her meds to suppress her pain, and allow her to breathe on her own....she was in a deep sleep but she could hear everything...so we were informed. At this very moment my heart sank on the plane....i had no idea this was happening but my heart sank and tears came out as I sat there on the plane praying for God to allow to see me mom alive....i prayed hard really hard. We landed ....i ran through immigration, through it all, got to the hospital, ran down the hallway arrived outside momma' s door, saw my brother coming out crying, I ran in on the side of her bed, to be told by the nurse That my beautiful Momma had just breathed her last breath as I walked in. She waited for me....she waited for me to be in the room before she let go. My mom passed away July 29th 2017, at 16:57 pm with all her kids by her side. I buried my momma with my own two hands and let her go to God and become an angel in the sky.....and the only thing that keeps me going is knowing she fought hard, she was in immense pain....and now she no longer is in any pain and is finally at peace. The cancer took my momma and died with her. I pray you get as much time with your mom as possible. Love Her , kiss her often, take time off work to be with her..... take leave a sabbatical where you can afford to.....do.whatever you can to be with her. I was away from my momma for 14 years....although I saw her every year....but if I could go back .....it would be to never leave her side. I wish your momma much love and good health for the rest of her days.....she will eventually go...but make most of it all while you still have her.

Hi, sorry for the very late reply. I have only just mustered up the coursge to look on here as reading these sad real life cancer stories is too painful but it is real and has to be faced.

my gorgeous mum lost her battle to the camcer December 8th last year. She fought a whole year since the terminal diagnosis - how awesome is she. She was brave, inspirational and still smiled right through to the end.

This Pain is unbearable and I guess I still dont believe she has been gone nearly 9 months.... She is on a cruise somewhere beautiful, listening to ber favourite music or off making her flower arrangements somewhere. This is how I do it, get through is every day. I imagine her with me, and what she would say or do in situations I am faced with: it helps me get through the days. I am steiving to suceed to make her proud- I will not let that evil Cancer take that away. 

I have a million things to write and say about my journey, the anger, heart ache, sadnesss and a roller coaster of emotions but at the moment this is all I can manage.

sending you all so much strength and love. All the best

Nici 

Hi nicip so sorry 2 read about u mum . my mother also passed away on the 2 August 2017 . It was year on 2 August 2018 . Still can't believe it still don't seem real . U take care x