My mum is dying, we've finally got the worse news.

On Monday this week we were finally told that there is nothing more they can do for my mum, no more treatment. In 2009 she had breast cancer, was in remission for 3 years and in 2012 we found out it had spread to her bones. for the past 3 years it's been slowly progressing through her bones but it has now spread to her brain and further more her bone marrow. she isn't well enough for treatment and is being referred to a hospice. Her oncologist said she may have days, weeks or months. I'm 27 years old and the thought of losing my mum is terrifying me. I can feel the panic building up inside me and and I can't stop crying about it. I don't want her to die.. She's only 53 and been through so much, I'm completely lost and I cannot prepare myself..

  • I'm so sorry for u and u mum I know how u feeling we had the news in October that my mother bowel cancer is inoperable and there nothing they can do for her. 2years ago she was told she had bowel cancer she had op removed 2 turmours she also need chemo after . She was so ill after chemo she was in hospital for month then. In July just gone my mother had scan they found mass didn't know if it was ovary or bowel turned out its on her bowel . My mother don't want 2 know how long she got . Sometime it don't seem really then it hit u it's so hard u go through mix amotion at the moment my head all over the place I got the black cloud over me and I can't shift it I'm trying to be brave but it's killing me my heart is broke . It's so sad for anyone who going through same situation just try and make the most of the time u got left it's going 2 be hard 4 u that all u can do is be there 4 u mum take care x 

  • My dad had bowel cancer 2 years ago and had it removed, since then he has been having regular Ct scans and on 24 th November we were told he had secondaries in his lungs and stomach and would probably live about 2 years. On Wednesday this week the oncologist told us it was in the liver, lungs and stomached and he only has a couple of months to live, I am really confused and struggling to deal with the thought of my dad dying
  • I'm sorry about u dad I think this is worst feeling is 2 be told there nothing they can do . It's a lot 2 take in I been all over place last few days between Christmas and I'm dreading the new year incase this is my mothers last with us nothing makes sense it's so horrible . My heart goes out 2 u and u dad life so not fair :( 

  • hi missy,

    i am so very sorry for your news about your precious mom... i was in a similar situation as you.. my mom had non-hodgkins lymphoma... was treated for it in the hospital for almost 4 months... came home and after 3 months it was back, more aggresive and spread to her brain... nothing more could be done and she sadly passed away in may...my mom was 71 though... it seems extra cruel when your mom is only 53 and although nothing is promised should have many more years ahead of her...

    i'm not quite sure what to say to you, i know in my experience my brain went into protection mode and really believed it wasn't happening...everything seemed so unreal and i couldn't even cry... it's only now i an finally cry over her... i think what is most important now is you make every day count, tell you love her often and be with her as much as you can be even though it will be very hard...

    you have been very brave to share your story on here, i have come to value this place as i'm sure you will because you really are with people that truely understand what you're going through...

    both you and your mom will be in my thoughts..

    God Bless x

  • Im so sorry for your news, i dont know what to say but to know you arent alone sometimes can be a small help. My dad has also been told he is dying an i know what you mean by it all building up an i dont know about you but i dont know what to do about it.iv been trying to speak to friends about it as i find it difficult to talk to family members as i know they are in as much pain as me. Take care of yourself and your mum x 

  • HI seaside123 so sorry 2 here about dad I also  feel like u it's so hard 2 talk about what going on 2 u family and friends that why I joined on her because people on her know what it's like how u feel . I feel so helpless because there nothing we can do its so hard my heart is broken :(  take care . 

  • I'm so sorry to hear your news, it's so awful. Cancer has no preference and it's a damn awful disease. I'm with my mum as much as I can be but she's struggling to hear and the cancer has already taken sight in her right eye. I already miss my mum and it's eating me up inside :(