Hi Mintimus

Sorry to hear that your mum is so ill. Inside of your mums frail body, is still your lovely mum, who would love to see you and your daughter. Go visit her before its too late, you will spend the rest of your life wracked with guilt otherwise. Only you know the answer to your final question. Kim

I really feel for you ............. I had the same problem but glad I didn't leave it all to my brother and 2 sisters ..... The lasting memories are so sad but the thought of upsetting her by not visiting were more so.

My one sister found it more difficult to visit than any of us and used her young son as an excuse. The ensuing guilt, regret and anger within the family prevented us from all supporting eachother during the following weeks & months after we lost Mom when we needed eachother most.  Even now nearly 20 years down the track it's hard to recount those days without feeling emotional.

I don't kow You or your Mum but hope you manage to let eachother know how much you care before it's not possible.  Maybe take something that will bring a smile to her face - that will hopefully have the same affect on you and ease the situation a little.

Mich x

Keep your chin up.

Hi Mintimus,

I know how you feel. My mom passed away a few months ago and it was so very hard to see her waste away before my eyes and not be able to do a thing about it. It is the hardest thing in the world, you want to take the pain and fear away from them but you can't. 

Although it makes you feel sick inside to see her the way she is if you don't go and see her and the worse happens it might be hard for you to live with. Don't let that happen. Even if you have to force yourself I would go. Sometimes all we see is the disease and not the person inside.

I tried to visit mom every chance I could, when she passed away I wasn't there at her bed side and I feel guilty over that. I often ask myself "could I have done more?". But my mom knew that I loved her and I know she loved me. In the end that is all that matters and brings some comfort.

God Bless x

of course not,  its normal .it shows the love you have for her.