Hi Gemini39 I really feel for you, this is such a difficult situation. I have just been through this with my Mum - as I read your post there were many similarities. I took the approach to just say it how it was when people asked me questions and I was surprised to find how supportive most people were. My "method" was to try and stay right in the present moment as much as possible. Whenever I found my thoughts drifting to something else I just brought my attention back to the very minute I was actually living, whether it was hands on caring, listening to understand, shopping, speaking to someone, whatever. If tears came I cried them shamelessly in the presence of whoever was in front of me (apart from Mum). I completely understand the feeling of wanting to scream at the minutiae of ordinary life. I used those similar feelings to tell me what was or was not important or my priority in that moment. It is all normal. Try and allow your feelings and frustrations to be your guide and inform the next right action which is right for you, or your Mum. Have your time with her, no matter what. And afterwards let others take the strain for you for a while. Not everyone can grasp the reality of a situation like this, I'm not sure if I could have done before I experienced it for myself. There is no cheating the emotional pain and grief process, just stay aware of what is happening in your internal world, if you know what I mean. I hope this is helpful. We are all different, so take anything that works for you and leave the rest. xx