I am so so sorry.  Your beloved Mum has probably accepted it but you haven't as yet.  Just try to think that she won't have to suffer any more.  Talk to her of the good times to bring a smile to her face.

 My husband has not, as yet, managed to  talk to me of how he is feeling about my diagnosis but it is written on his face.    I keep going for his sake.

Hi Vickyd

Im really sorry about your mother.

As a terminally ill person myself im going to speak based on my personal experience.

Honestly, i see my disease as a kind of a blessing. It actually saves me from all the guilt, and fear, and regret im harboring. It helps me to forgive myself and to find peace of mind in the process. I still see the future as uncertain but my predicament gave me clarity of what am i supposed to do.

Thats probably the reason why i can easily accept death. To me death is now like going home, my train stop has arrived and its time for my journey to end. Death is like waking up from a surreal vivid dream we called life and now its time for me to wake up. That ideas actually excite me.

Your mother is undergoing a process and in my experience just having my love ones around, fixing me a healthy meal, attending to my medical needs (when i can't) are enough to eleviate my feeling of loneliness. Personally i dont like being told what to do or what to think. I don't like having arguments (nor being around with people that is having an argument). I don't like being preached. i don't like being pitied. I don't like my family getting sad about whats happening to me, though i kinda understand that their sadness is unavoidable. I think we terminals undergo a period of mental confusion and we are in this state where we personally, for ourselves, want decide what are the things we really want to do or what to think. And so we need some time to think for ourselves.

What I do appreciate is someone who will listen to me on those rare occasions where i wanted to open up, discussing my philosophies about life, my speeches about accepting my fate and understanding what i truly want as i undergo the process. Assurance from family members that they will do what they can to relieve my stress and pains also helps for my peace of mind.

Im not a very religious person but stories of NDE's, particularly that of Anita Moorjani, kinda helps me a lot in achieving a more positive and bright perspective.

Long story short, the key word is acceptance... that really helps me in achieving a more clear and peaceful state of mind and i think it will both help you and your mother to cope up with the grief, regardless of circumstances that will come out. Though I know that there is a process we need to undergo in order to get there. Im pretty sure that in time, everything will be alright and fine.

Hi Vickyd

Im really sorry about your mother.

As a terminally ill person myself im going to speak based on my personal experience.

Honestly, i see my disease as a kind of a blessing. It actually saves me from all the guilt, and fear, and regret im harboring. It helps me to forgive myself and to find peace of mind in the process. I still see the future as uncertain but my predicament gave me clarity of what am i supposed to do.

Thats probably the reason why i can easily accept death. To me death is now like going home, my train stop has arrived and its time for my journey to end. Death is like waking up from a surreal vivid dream we called life and now its time for me to wake up. That ideas actually excite me.

Your mother is undergoing a process and in my experience just having my love ones around, fixing me a healthy meal, attending to my medical needs (when i can't) are enough to eleviate my feeling of loneliness. Personally i dont like being told what to do or what to think. I don't like having arguments (nor being around with people that is having an argument). I don't like being preached. i don't like being pitied. I don't like my family getting sad about whats happening to me, though i kinda understand that their sadness is unavoidable. I think we terminals undergo a period of mental confusion and we are in this state where we personally, for ourselves, want decide what are the things we really want to do or what to think. And so we need some time to think for ourselves.

What I do appreciate is someone who will listen to me on those rare occasions where i wanted to open up, discussing my philosophies about life, my speeches about accepting my fate and understanding what i truly want as i undergo the process. Assurance from family members that they will do what they can to relieve my stress and pains also helps for my peace of mind.

Im not a very religious person but stories of NDE's, particularly that of Anita Moorjani, kinda helps me a lot in achieving a more positive and bright perspective.

Long story short, the key word is acceptance... that really helps me in achieving a more clear and peaceful state of mind and i think it will both help you and your mother to cope up with the grief, regardless of circumstances that will come out. Though I know that there is a process we need to undergo in order to get there. Im pretty sure that in time, everything will be alright and fine.