I'm ever so sorry to hear about what your poor mum is going through. I can only imagine how heart breaking it is watching someone you love cry in pain. There really are no words strong enough to say how sorry I am. I don't think there's any right or wrong way of coping really I guess we do what's natural to us. It's ok to not always be strong...Sometimes we need to shout or cry to let it all out. I think your strength will come from the love you have for your mum, to be there to support her and love her. Sometimes we don't realise our own strength until we are faced with something life changing. My dad was diagnosed 18 months ago with stage 4 incurable bowel cancer which has spread to his lungs and liver. Watching some one deteoriate and lose some or the majority of their independence is devastating. But my strength has come from the love I have for him, the fact he needs my help at times and he wants to see me strong. I also need to be strong for my mum and siblings to help them cope. Although when I'm on my own or with my own little family I usually cry and let it all out then x