Such a searching and heartfelt question that I felt compelled to drop you a reply. I did not feel that I reached acceptance level until I had actually lost my Dad. He was elderly and eventually passed away after his journey with prostate cancer (secondaries in the lungs). I tried to enjoy the moments whilst he was alive and these, some 8+ years on, often come back to me and bring comfort.
It is never easy knowing you are going to lose those you love and depend upon to be there for you. I lost my own husband eighteen months ago and both my children (adults) as well as myself took time to reach acceptance and are grieving still. At times it almost felt like it was happening to someone else because so much is out of our control.
If there are things you wish to say or do with or for your Dad then I hope you can do so as it will bring comfort in time. Take care Jules54
I'm feeling the same way as you sophiexx. My father was just diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer, and I have been a complete mess. Right now, I am feeling angry and do not know how I will be able to accept my father dying. If you ever need to chat, i'm always here. This will be a long road, but I'm hoping to be able to have some sort of acceptance by the time my father is no longer here on this Earth. I know I can't really answer your question, but I just wanted you to know that you aren't alone in the way you're feeling.
i know how you are feeling, my mum is lying in a hospital bed dying from ovarian cancer. I don't know how long she's got left or how I'm gonna cope. I'm 36 years old but feel like a child not knowing how I'll cope. It's heartbreaking. I felt like the only person in the world going through this but your post gave me some small comfort that it's not just me. I hope you'll be ok. Lots of love to you and your family. Be brave. Jim xx
Hi huni. At the moment I too have the same sad question
I can't see myself accepting the fact that I will lose my wonderful mum. She was only diagnosed in February with her grade 4 glioblastoma brain tumour and I feel like our world was turned upside down.
My lively sociable beautiful mum had to go through radiotherapy and chemotherapy not to cure her, just to ease symptoms and prolong her life.
It all feels like a bit of a dream..... I keep thinking "nooooooooooooooooooooooo it's not really happening" then I am snapped back to reality.
It's the not knowing anything that's getting to me, along with not being able to do anything to help her. I have moments when I actually just want to curl up in a corner and cry.... but with 2 children of my own, work, other younger siblings etc I have no time to stop. It's a good thing really if I stop and let the sadness get to me I don't think I'd ever stop crying. But my mum is so brave. Never let's it get her down, she still manages to go out. Has all of us around, just makes us laugh. I then feel selfish and guilty for feeling sad when she's the one going through it all. She is my hero.
If I can help at all let me know. I feel like I've just babbled on.
