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My mum is dying and I don't know what to do.

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I have never posted on a forum board before but I do not know where else to go. 

My mum has recently been diagnosed with spinal cancer and health has quickly deteriorated in the past 2 months. She has lost all mobility and has been given a couple of months to live. I am 21 and my sister is 12. I don't know what is going to happen if my mum passes. I'm trying to be strong for my mum, dad and sister but I feel as if my whole world is crashing down. I can't eat or sleep and all I seem to do is cry. My mum is so young and I'm heartbroken I won't get to spend my life with her. Every time I go out I am jealous of people that are out with their mums or people smiling because I'm not happy.

I really don't know what to do. I was hoping to hear from anyone that has been in a similar position and any advice any one could give me. 

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    Hi there, 

    I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. In March, my dad got diagnosed with bowel cancer and sadly passed away in May, after a short 9 week battle. I'm 20 and my younger sister is 16. When my dad was ill, I tried my best to keep things as normal as possible. It was really really hard, but I just spoke to my dad as I normally would and made him as comfortable as possible. 

    It's just important to make sure you stick together as a family - you will help eachother through this awful awful time. There is no right way or wrong way to deal with it, so don't try to stop crying when you feel you need to. Everyone needs to cry. 

    Just make sure to spend as much time together as possible and treasure those happier memories. And remember, she'll always be your mum! 

    I'm here if you'd like to talk.

    Georgia x 

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    Hi there, 

    I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. In March, my dad got diagnosed with bowel cancer and sadly passed away in May, after a short 9 week battle. I'm 20 and my younger sister is 16. When my dad was ill, I tried my best to keep things as normal as possible. It was really really hard, but I just spoke to my dad as I normally would and made him as comfortable as possible. 

    It's just important to make sure you stick together as a family - you will help eachother through this awful awful time. There is no right way or wrong way to deal with it, so don't try to stop crying when you feel you need to. Everyone needs to cry. 

    Just make sure to spend as much time together as possible and treasure those happier memories. And remember, she'll always be your mum! 

    I'm here if you'd like to talk.

    Georgia x 

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