Coming to terms with cancer

My mum has liver cancer, diagnosed last July. She is currently in a hospice and yesterday we were told she has weeks left to live, so we are preparing the house to bring her home. I am 33 weeks pregnant and she is so excited for her first grandchild although now accepts she will never get to meet her. The amazing nurses at the hospice are helping her to make a memory box which is lovely. It makes me so sad that she knows her time is up, she is only 56 and although she appears to have come to terms with it, is clearly struggling (obviously). How do I help? What can I do? I have never lost anyone before and struggle to know  what to do. I just spend all of my time with her and try to be of some comfort.

  • Hi Helsbels, 

    Welcome to the forum.

    I'm so sorry to hear about your mother at what should be a really exciting time for you and your family. The memory box is a wonderful idea and hopefully will be of some comfort to you knowing that when the time does come she will always be there in spirit and live on through you and the memories you have of her.

    It sounds like you're being a great source of support already and hopefully our members will be along soon to offer their advice and share their experiences with you.

    Best Wishes, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • I am new to this site as find it very  hard to discuss my mums illness and I'm so sorry for your news too.  My mum was diagnosed last June with stage 4 breast cancer which, has spread to her bones, liver, lungs, pancreas, spine, pelvis  and possibly her brain.  She is doing very well in fact so well I asked the nurse if there was a possibility she may have been mis diagnosed!  I had breast cancer at the age of 27 and I will be 59 this year so mine is a success story but, I just don't know how to cope myself.  My mum is my life and, I keep hiding my thoughts or put them out of my head.  I hope your mum keeps positive as I try to keep my mum positive.  I live 3 hours away from mum but probably see her much more than one of my sisters who,lives 3 miles away!   Take care and keep positive xxx