Hello Emma, 

So sorry to hear about your Dads recent diagnosis. It's been a shock to you all and you're still trying to process it all. You'll be going through a mixture of emotions which are all normal by the way. Nothing anybody can say will make things any better or easier, but just so you know you're far from alone. 

I don't know your age or your father's age but I'm guessing you are both relatively young. 

I will be turning 27 in two weeks time. My father at 63 was diagnosed a year next week with incurable bowel cancer which has spread to his lungs and liver. When I first found out I felt my world had caved in, it was like it was somebody else's life...this sort of thing doesn't happen to our family. I kept waking up each morning hoping it was some sort of nightmare/dream that wasn't real. I kept praying each night, researching the Internet...anything to try and help the situation and make my dad better again. I couldn't find joy in anything anymore, my smiles were forced. The heartache is indescribable no words will ever fully describe the pain. We almost lost my dad last July when his bowel obstructed (blocked) and everyone thought that he was going to die...my mum was so distressed and worried she ended up crashing her car into a lorry, thankfully she was fine. My dad recovered and he seemed better than ever. But in February this year he ended up having a stroke related to the chemo he had in January...but he's overcome that and is doing well. Nobody knows when anyones time is up doctors can guess but they never fully know...it's all down to statistics and your father isn't a statistic he's an individual and whilst there is still life it is worth fighting for. I don't know why these things have to happen but they do unfortunately. I can't predict the future so I learn to take each day as it comes with my dad and we have normal chats, laugh, create memories, take photos and videos. The best thing you can do for cancer is to try and remain positive however hard that may be at times. 

I don't want to lose my dad either. I've never had to live without him...

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Thank you so much for your reply, what you've said very much echos my own feelings.

I'm in my late 20's too and my Dad will be 60 in a few months.

Its so difficult trying to carry on leading a "normal" life, its bad enough that my Dad is in such pain and able to do so little, but added to that the thought that one day soon he won't be here, thats unbearable.

I'm glad your Dad is doing well, Its good advice to take every day as it comes.

Thanks again for your reply. 

So sorry to hear about your dad. 

I am too going through a simular situation. My mum has been battling terminal cancer for the last 2 years and has been recently given weeks/months to live as her's too is very aggressive and no treatment is working.

I understand it's impossible to find comfort anywhere and the heartbreak gets more unbareable each day. 

But know you are not alone. 

Daisy 

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