Learning how to live while dying of cancer.

I am new to the forum and need help.  I have MBC and was diagnosed last April so it's almost been a year.  I have Fibromyalgia and am dealing with the symptoms from that as well as the chemo.  I have mets to the bones and ovary and as of the last scan the bone mets are shrinking and the ovary met is stable.  My problems are the emotional fall-out of this.  I am having a hard time with my emotions.  I am afraid to committ to living and not ready to die just yet so sitting on the fence of living.  I am all over the place with emotions and find it very hard to know what the day will bring.  HOW DO YOU STAY SANE????  I have had psychological assistance but they were of little use, one was fixated on why I quit my job years ago, one wanted to know if I was a hoarder and had bed bugs and the last one said that everything I was feeling was normal but offered no other help.

I am also alone with all this, my sister is in a care home, I have been caring for our mother for the last 15 years and my brother is 3 hours away and can only help out once a month.  I have a friend who has distanced herself from me so I truly feel like I am holding on to a heavy burden with all this.  Please give me some tips on how you cope with living day to day.  Do you distract yourself, crafts, think positive what ever I need help to just keep going.  

  • Hello and welcome to the group,  

    Im sorry to hear about your situation my cancer is terminal also I found out when I was pregnant with my second child it really hit me hard and the emotions you are going through is normal. I was in a very dark place after finding out won't bore you with my long story but to cut it short had to deliver my baby 9 weeks early to then have spinal surgery the next day as my cancer had broke my back and was close to be coming paralysed then after I recovered from surgery was hit with 5 sessions of radiotherapy and chemotherapy. I felt like giving up at one point I thought after everything I have been through i just want to die. But my kids are my survivors and my fighters, my family need me and I'm not ready to say bye yet.....all I can say is focus on living your day to day with a postive attitude when you feel down do something that makes you feel good. Start a hobby if you don't already have one try mediation to relax and clear your thoughts.....I wasn't really into meditation until someone told me to try it and it really helps. 

    Have you tried the maggies center for help? I'm sure they would be able to arrange some support out for your home situation which might take the pressure of you.

    Never think each day like it's going to be your last one thing cancer feeds on is negativity if you are run down your body will be to so stay strong and keep smiling my lovely no one knows when there time is up not even when you have cancer everyone is different so keep telling yourself your going to be one of those ones that makes it those extra years and live it. 

  • Thank you for responding to the post.  I am sorry as well that you are having to deal with this situation and being a young mum as well.  You are a very brave and inspirational woman and your advice had helped me try to get my focus back on just living with what I have at the moment.

    Wishing you the best, Annie