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My husband is terminally ill

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hi everyone, my husband (58) was diagnosed on 1st Feb with stage 4 non small cell cancer in his lung. We have been told since that he has a tumour on his adrenal gland, behind shoulder blade, 2 brain tumours and it has now gone into his bone and he has nodes in his chest wall. The consultant has said approx 3 months and we haven't decided yet to bother with chemo but I don't know what to expect and how fast he will deteriorate. They told us that it will probably be the brain tumours that will kill him but I'm so confused as to what to expect. Thanks

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    Hi Vicky, I am sorry to hear about your husband, my husband also has terminal cancer. I dont know the answers to your questions, sorry but am here if you want to talk x

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    Hi ladies my wonderful  husband is also terminally ill he has Oesophageal cancer and it has spread to the wall of his stomach. He was diagnosed on 6 January this year he is only 59 years young.  The oncologist said without chemotherapy he has 3-4 month's and if he has chemotherapy he will be lucky to live 12 months. He is coming to the end of his first cycle of chemo and the second cycle starts Monday 14 March.....he is already suffering the side effects of the chemo it's heartbreaking to watch my magnificent strong man suffer....the oncologist was very brutal with the diagnosis and said the statistics show only 5% of people with this type of cancer survive longer than a year....I refuse to let him give up....he has to be that one person who proves the experts wrong ...that the clock is not ticking . ....I cannot imagine life without him...this is my way of coping for now... I live in hope ...here if you want to chat ..big big hugs to you both xxx

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    Hi Anna and Vicky,

    I was also given 3 months (without chemo) and the 5% statistic when I was diagnosed with Stage 4 OC.If you turn it around, it means that 1 in 20 people WILL survive at least a year. It is a horrible situation for any of us to be in but someone has to be that 1 person in 20.

    The statistics don't take any account of the age or fitness of the individuals involved - which makes a big difference in the odds of survival. Everyone is different, but in general the fitter you are are the faster your body will recover from the chemo or radiotherapy which in turn reduces the risk of infection causing complications.

    Best wishes
    Dave 

     

     

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