Mum suffering with cancer

I don't usually do things like this but a year ago my mum got diagnosed with lung cancer that had already spead to her brain. They gave her as much treatment as possible which made her get better. Now a year later that cancer has grown 3x as large in her brain there is nothing else and she has been given 6 months left. The past week she has started to have fits/seizures which are the most terrifying things personally for me.

I am 19 years old and recently everything has hit home. My mum is constantly asleep and has no appetite what so ever. My mum is my best friend but I am absolutely terrified to be left alone with her. Something deep inside is telling me my mum is not going to make it until Christmas and I just wondered if anyone could give me advice on how to get through this. I have the most supportive family and friends but I still feel I have no one to talk to because I want to be as strong as I can for everybody else. 

 

  • hey, i just posted about my dads brain tumour, which is cancerous. he also has fits and seizures. i dont know what to say as i am going through the same. Im scared about loosing my dad. we can all give each other advice and support. but ultimatly it is us as individuals who will go through the pain and emotion. im sorry i am not giving you any helpful advice. every moment is precious with loved ones. sorry im not making much sense. 

  • Hi there and welcome to the forum. I'm sorry to read about your Mom having lung and brain cancer. It sounds as though you have taken this all on yourself by trying to be strong for your Mom and everyone else. Perhaps you are being too hard on yourself. Your life experience is limited when it comes to illness and dying, especially when the person you are about to lose is your Mom. My heart goes out to you for having to deal with such a tragedy at this age and stage in your life. You are experiencing so many emotions right now that you seem to have the weight of the world on your young shoulders. Perhaps the first thing you need to learn now is to let others share in the concern of your Mom's illness. Allow others to support you as you support them. This makes the load a lot lighter for everyone so its' not weighing on one person. There's nothing wrong with trying to be strong, but there are times when we have to lean on others too. You will not only be helping yourself; you will also allow others to feel better by allowing them to give their support to you. I hope this makes sense to you.  

    I notice another poster here who is in a similar situation as you has responded to your post. Perhaps the two of you may find some common ground to communicate with each other as a means of support.

    Please come back on the forum and let us know how you get along with your Mom's illness. Let people in to help you and you may be surprised as to how much the load gets a lot lighter. You will also find the other people on this forum are very caring and supportive.

    Take care and sending you hugs.

    Lorraine