Hi konibk,

Welcome to our friendly forum. I am sorry you still haven't received a response to your question and I have now made sure to bump your thread as I know we have so many users on our forum who have had to face a similar decision to your sister and they will be able to share their stories with you and their own experience of chemotherapy.

We have some very detailed information on chemotherapy on our site which you can read here.

If you are based in the UK, feel free also to ring our expert nurses on 0808 800 4040, it's a free number from UK landlines and their line is open Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm.

I hope this helps and our best wishes to you and your sister,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Konibk, I'm sorry to hear that your sister's cancer has spread. I am not a medical person, but just another poster who has cancer, so certainly not responding to give any advice. I have lung cancer X2 along with a few other cancers. Since I'm not feeling too bad overall, I will take whatever is offered as long as there is some hope to keep the cancers at bay. Having said that however, I will only do that if I have quality of life. If I get to a point where I am sick and can't get relief, then I will be saying no to any further treatment. That is my take on this. Her treatment team will be able to advise her based on what they know about her, and also what her wishes would be under the circumstances. It does come down to her decision, so she needs to decide how she wants this to go. I know as her family members, all of you want what's best for her, and that is what you need to keep in mind. If and when my time comes to make such a decision, it will be what I want to happen, not anyone else. As hard as it is to watch a loved one suffering from this disease, we always have to remember who's life this is hanging in the balance. I too, watched several family members and friends dying with cancer and that was so hard, but as much as I wanted them to live on, I had to accept that what I wanted was not the issue.

Be a support to your sister and let her make this decision based on information she gets from her treatment team along with what her wishes are. Love her regardless of how this goes.

Take care of yourselves and your sister.

Lorraine

Hi iwas dianoised with lung cancer witch spread to my adrenal gland in april iv been doing chemo for the last few months it is very hard but it is shrinking it so it has been worth it,i know everyone it different but am glad am doing chemo its giving me longer to live for now.