Hi

My mum was diagnosed with lung and spine cancer in May.  It was discovered after a fall when she broke her ankle, she had fallen as her legs have become paralysed and she is now unable to walk.  She was given 6 to 12 months to live and she is now in a care home where she is well looked after although bedridden with only a TV for company.

I feel so useless, my sister and I take it in turn to visit every other day so she always has a visitor.  We both work full time so we are exhausted emotionally and physically.

Mum is upset by some friends who promise a visit but then don't come.  I have tried to encourage friends and family to write a note or send a card if they can't visit, I appreciate some are old themselves and live some miles away so making the trip isn't easy.

My daughter is expecting a baby in December and I dont feel I am giving her enough attention although she hasn't said that and she understands the situation.

I dont want to feel miserable all the time but somehow it doesn't feel right to be happy.

Thanks for listening xx