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I wondered if anyone might be able to help:

My grandma is in the final stages of dying and we are at the stage of pacing around, waiting for a phonecall on a daily basis. I am due to get married this time next week and don't know what to do.

My Dad is giving me away and it is his mother, my grandmother who is sadly about to pass away. He is understandably struggling to deal with the stress of it all and I wonder what to do about the practicalities. Do I cancel the wedding, cancel the honeymoon? or try to get everyone through the day? The likelihood is that we will all fall apart.

I just don't know what to do? Has anyone else been in a situation like this and has any advice on how to cope with the stress for everyone involved?

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    Hi Jane,

    Welcome to this supportive forum. I am sorry to read your post and can understand your dilema. You ask wither you should cancel the wedding, well I would suggest you dont do this. No one can tell for certain when she may draw her last breath; I have heard of some people who have gone on for weeks. I know it will not be easy on what is after all normally a very special day and I feel sure you will be thinking of her, but I feel sure she would want you to still go ahead. If the worst happens I know it will be very very hard for everyone but she may last longer than anyone thinks possible.

    Wishing you all the best, Brian.

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    Hi Jane

    So sorry to read your post and see what  you and your family are having to go through just  now. Brian has given a very honest reply and I have to say that, as hard as it may be to face the stresses  that cancer in the family brings, I am drawing on my late husband's opinion as I give my thoughts. He was adamant that life went on as normal as was possible during his terminal cancer journey because this gave him the greatest incentive.  No one can  be certain as to when your grandma may pass away but she would be delighted to know that you are going to be happily married.  Weddings are stressful and emotional at the best of times and take a lot of planning. I hope you can talk to your Dad, be honest with each other and get through this together.  Sending a virtual hug.Jules54

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