Thanks for your insights,.

Ours is still very raw, I think everyone sort of got used to me with the cancer and have been dealing with it the best way they could, but now with my husband its a tottaly different kettle of fish. My husband seems to of give up. Hardly eating although I'm trying to get him too. Laying on the bed quite a lot. Hasn't been outside the house unless with me.  He's also very snappy and angry, which I understand.

My son is very angry at the minute and I seem to be getting the brunt of it, but that's the norm as we do clash because we're so alike. My daughter bless her is trying to hold everybody together, but I know its affecting her as well. 

I'm an emotional wreck keep crying for the slightest thing. Crying now typing this, but I suppose it's good to get things out.

We're going to see his oncologist on Thursday, so hopefully she may be able to talk him round about and have some more answers for him, as he says his side hurts by his ribs and its not muscle pain from coughing.

One thing has just made me laugh, his doctor has just telephoned to say that they've had a meeting and he thinks its a good idea for a MacMillan nurse to come out and see use. I said fine I've only had cancer for nearly two years and have never been offered or seen a MacMillan nurse.

What's my husband got that I haven't? Haha

On a plus note next week I'm half way through this 3rd lot of chemo, then I'll have a scan and hopefully its killing the cancer cells.

Big thank you to everyone on here who chats as it really does help.

Thank you all again

Toni

Awww Toni, why is it men seem to bring out the 'mothering' in people but women are expected to be strong?  I have the opposite to you.  My son is calm, helpful and never angry but my daughters just see me as someone who is strong and will get on with life.  If I want anything I have to ask, it is never offered - but I find it is when you are most in need that is the time you are least able to ask.  I have often had no energy to cook or even make a sandwich, let alone pick up the phone, hence my weight loss is quite significant.  Thank goodness I was overweight to start with. Haha!

Hope everything goes well wih your husband on Thursday and that you get good results.  I have results of my CT and MRI scan next Tuesday.  This time I dont feel optimistic.

By the way, dont get me started on Macmillan nurses!!!